10 years Later and I feel like a failure

Thank you...I stepped on the scale last night for the first time in months and was shocked at how much I have gained. I am more determined than ever to lose it. I turned 50 this year and I don't want to go into my senior years with the added burden of being overweight. I thank you for your words of encouragement.

I'm 56 and we for sure struggle to lose post menopause

I have a fairly healthy metabolism, but cannot stray over about 1700 calories to maintain and most days aim for 1500. 1200 calories, low carb (50g max) is what worked for me to lose, but I know there are plenty of people here who subsist on less than 1000 calories per day, so you'll have to work out where you need to be to lose.

My other top tip is to log everything that passes your lips and log your active minutes. I use MyFitnessPal and Samsung Health respectively.

I'm proud to be in the top 1% of users on SH because I consistently log over 10k steps (100 + active minutes) 5-7 days per week.

Start small and work your way up to peak health!

Yes I am pretty good at logging. Yesterday I ordered a mini elliptical machine for under my desk at work and I figure I can keep my legs moving while I sit all day and that should help some. I will also be joining the water aerobics classes at my gym 3 days a week and will be trying out some YouTube Zumba on other days. I am starting the pouch test on Saturday, I figured the weekend is a good time to start the liquids. I have to watch my carbs like a hawk too. My problem started when I started dating someone 7 months ago and we would go out to eat a lot and finally I noticed all my pants getting tighter and realized I had put on another 15 pounds on top of the gain I already had of 45 since my surgery. So I am at a place where it's either start to lose or my clothes won't fit anymore. I refuse to buy anything because i am determined to lose this no matter what it takes or how long. I know it will probably take a good year to be where I want and I am ok with that.

And keep posting.

Lisa, YEA YOU! for confronting the scales. It's not an enemy, just a tool.

Again, YOU CAN LOSE THIS REGAIN!

Best,

Ann

The worst thing you could do is be down on yourself, I got to tell you from birth until the age of 26 I was a it's hard to believe but it's true I was an athletic machine my body fat was less than 10% I ran 7 marathons a year for 11 years and all under 3 hours, I was a triathlete, All County, All State football and hockey player and I started I'm not using this as an excuse but I started dating this Italian girl who I ended up marrying and what she does is she cooks from the time she wakes up till the time she goes to bed she's kind of old school so I was surrounded by cakes cookies pasta meatballs you name it I suffered a minor injury became depressed and from 26 until today I'm now 45 years old I've been severely overweight I've gained I've lost I've gained I've lost so much weight I don't even want to post it because it's not worth believing but severely obese doesn't cover it and what I found that worked is that Monday through Saturday I eat correctly I have a loving wife that plans my meals and shops so I got to be honest that's a big part of it and so that's a cheat right there but on Sunday it's like I'm getting paid to eat nothing's off-limits and I eat until I can't move but guess what 6 days out of the week I'm eating correctly and I'm active not nearly as active as I used to be I don't run anymore but I just go for walks at my job keeps me on my feet most of the day so if you can control your eating and your portions you're going to find that that one free day and the other six days of doing what you're supposed to do will keep you in line a lot of people can't do that but I got to tell you don't ever ever get down on yourself I believe that everybody is where they're at for a reason and it's like a combination to a safe you just have to find the right thing that works for you. Telling yourself you can never have something again is asking to binge, hang in there the worst thing you could do and the wrong thing to do is to be down on yourself.

I just ordered a pouch reset kit too. I too am 10 years out (well almost). I have a 60 lb gain from lowest weight. I decided when I hit back above 200lbs that I have to do something. Thus, Wednesday I ordered the shakes again. I haven't done a shake in years. MMMMM so looking forward to it. NOT

I just wanted to add that you aren't a failure. You kept the weight off for several years. If you hadn't done the VSG, you surely would have been gaining all that time, so you would be a lot heavier now.