Loquacious Laura (Laura Crowe)
Ending a Frienemieship and Starting a New Friendship
Mar 01, 2011
Around my 100lb lost mark my best friend of 10 years had moved into my home, shortly after moving in she begged me to set up all of her appointments and everything to get surgery herself. I told her that she needed to make sure she wanted it and not because she feels the need to please me and you have to really want this for yourself. She said "I want this, I need this!" so I spent hours on the phone setting up appointments with a psych, pcp, sleep study, surgeon, info session, 6th month Bariatric weight management program, nutritionist, etc. 2 days after the info session My husband and I got in an argument about it. He told me explicitly to leave her alone, stop talking about it, let it go! I was so confused why was my husband so upset with me asking me to stop, how could I when she is begging me. I was really confused... Finally I found out that she had been telling him that she didn't want surgery and I was forcing her into it and that she couldn't understand why I didn't believe in her enough to believe she could loose the weight with diet and exercise alone. I would never!! She even had me reschedule her PCP appointment that she had missed. I'm guessing she didn't like the positive attention I was getting and wanted to get attention too. No better way to kill 2 birds with one stone. Make me look horrible getting negative attention and turn her into the victim for sympathetic attention.I started putting 2 & 2 together during her voluntary move out of my home and the deceit dated all the way back to when we first met 10 tears prior. Finding out she tried to convince my husband not to be with me the same week she accepted the title Godmother to our daughter and also maid of honor when I married him a year later. I NEVER KNEW AND NEVER WOULD HAVE SUSPECTED SHE'D DO THAT.
I ended the friendship when she moved out, it was easier than I thought I just blocked her on facebook and ignored her and refused to talk about her altogether. On January 10th I was on the news, a news reporter seen my video blog talking about my Ravens Football jersey showing my old mens 2xl and revealing my new ladies 12/14. YouTube "ravens weight loss fan" 2 days after making it on the local news I received a friend request from a ravens promoter that I thought was suspicious "if i was a ravens promoter I'd have photos of me w/the players, shoot I'd get a picture piggy back on ray lewis or something" there were a lot of pictures but just random I should have just deleted it right away but didn't until she posted a nasty comment about me thinking she was signed into her real facebook but was actually still logged into the fake profile she created to stalk my facebook. Once I seen it I deleted it and the next day got an email to my private unlisted email address from her still pretending to be this fake woman begging me to add her again. I traced her IP address in the header of the email and confirmed it was in fact her. I now have a peace order in effect and am happy to say that there have been no incidents since court 4 weeks ago.
Happy New Beginning... Along my journey I met my friend Jessica 1st time was at a yardsale looking for clothes to shrink into, 2nd time running into her was at a support group 1 week before her VSG in Dec. by my surgeon, the 3rd time was so totally random we knew it has to me ment to be that we become friends and exchanged information. I responded to a craigslist add for free scifi books that my husband would love for his birthday. I went to pick them up and she answered the door, her husband was the one giving the books away. We now joke about sharing a brain and think highly of each other and our husbands have a lot in common too. We gave each other friendship rings that are engraved with "friends are family we choose for ourselves" so true! <3 you Jes! Loquacious Laura
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About Me
Baltimore, MD
Location
28.7
BMI
Surgery
04/05/2010
Surgery Date
Jul 12, 2007
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