Waiting4ZionVA
Walking A Thin Line
May 07, 2012
Hello All!I finally got my information back in the mail about my appointment with the surgeon to discuss the best proceedure for me. I'm getting my surgery done through VCU MCV Health Systems here in Richmond, VA and I have to have a number of appointments before I can even begin to think about scheduling my surgery.
In the midst of my mind whirling, trying to keep up with the dates for my sleep eval, psych eval, and stress test/physical appointments, I'm also dealing with the support (and lack thereof) of family and friends. I come from a long line of big people, and I have several family members who have had the surgery and are strongly supporting and advocating my decision. However, on the opposite end of the spectrum, is my significant other.
He has seen me through a lot of rough patches in my life. He helped me as a best friend when I was going through an abusive relationship in my past. He has been my confidant, and the keeper of some of my deepest secrets. I love him with all of my heart, but he really isn't feeling my decision to have weight loss surgery (of any kind!). When I talk to him about it, he says that he will support me 100%, but that he will be upset, and may feel upset for the rest of our lives. What type of support is that??!!
I'm trying to be understanding and sympathetic of his feelings and his needs, but it really blew the wind out of my sails. I asked him to talk about what his concerns are, and he said that he had an ex that had roux-en-y bypass and she had a really terrible recovery. I told him that WLS is definitely a 'one size fits all' type of life changing surgery, and that each person recovers at their own pace. It's still not connecting for him.
I love my fiance with all my heart...but I love myself too. And I know that I need to make this big step to help get myself healthier. But not having his 100% support is making it a lot tougher on me. I'd love to hear how you all cope with this. :/ I'm just going to keep on praying :)
