Question:
Lap RNY: Worried about taking care of my Preschool daughter and Kindergarten son!
My mom will be here for 2 weeks after my surgery on May 24th. My kids are VERY high energy and have 1 week of school left after my mom leaves(she lives in another state). 2 weeks after Laproscopic RNY will I be able to make meals, give baths, be a semi;) normal mom??? Any and everyone's experience would be great :) — tawker (posted on May 8, 2010)
May 8, 2010
You should be ok. However, lifting is limited and you will not want to bend
over a lot. You will also get tired a lot faster. You may want to use
prepared meals for your family as you won't be able to eat what they eat
for a long time. Cooking and freezing entrees ahead of time before your mom
leaves will help. You should be able to drive by then but not for long
distances. I went back to work after a week but I didn't lift anything
heavy.
— tandalyncarter
May 8, 2010
Sorry I don't really have an answer for your but I do share the same
concerns! My surgery date is 6/7 and I have a 5 yr old and 3 yr old
twins.... all high energy boys. I'm really nervous about taking care of
them when I come home. I'll have my husband to help in the evenings but
I'll be on my own most of the day. YIKES!
— amy3
May 8, 2010
In two weeks you will be feeling pretty good. Sore but not as wiped out as
those first few days following surgery. As a general rule, laproscopic
surgery has a significantly shorter healing time but it doesn't mean pain
free. The first 4 days were the hardest for me. I needed assistance
getting up out of chairs, bed, etc. I don't have small children but I do
have a small dog who thinks he belongs in your lap. I had to keep him
shooed away as I wanted no weight or movement on my incision sites. I'm
sure your surgeon will advise you on weight limits. The risk of hernia will
be high because of the multiple punctures thru the muscle wall and you may
or may not have a drain in place after surgery. Best to start practicing
with your little ones now that Mommy can't hold her wrigglers for a few
weeks unless they can be very still. I think with them being that young and
showing them your "boo-boos" after surgery, they will be
understanding and may surprise you by their attempts to comfort you. Good
luck to you on your surgery!
— Arkin10
May 8, 2010
When I had my RNY, my Dr. said no lifting for 6 weeks. As far as cooking
you will not have a problem. With driving I drove a week after my surgery,
however do ask your Dr.
Good luck
— FSUMom
May 8, 2010
Judging from my boyfriend being alittle over six weeks out.. I think you
will be fine.. not 100% by any means.. but ok. I liked the idea of having
pre-planned meals ready to go.. lots of snacks and drinks they can get to.
Tell the little punkin heads that they are going to have to be BIG KIDS and
help take care of Mommy. They will love it. Just be prepared to be VERY
tired..You will be. Keep your sipping up and try to get in as much protein
for energy as you can. Good luck to you!
— Mzlgrl31
May 8, 2010
You'll be more than fine. I had my surgery and only had help the first two
days...and I had a high energy 3 yr old boy at home. The following week
after my surgery I hiked through a woods with no problem and found I had
way more energy just getting those first few pounds off. You're lucky to
have your mom that first two weeks. That first week might be rough, but
you'll get into the groove after that. You will have many days where
you're worn out and more tired, but you'll manage. Keep taking your
vitamins/supplements and getting your protein and fluids...and I'm betting
you'll look back and wonder what you worried so much about! Good luck.
You won't regret this. I'm 2.5 years out...and I feel 200% better than
I've ever felt in my life! Hugs...Cheryl
— Cheryl K.
May 8, 2010
Thank you so much for all your encouraging words. I've always been a
"bit" of a worrier ;)
I feel so fortunate to have my mom for help. She wasn't supportive at
first, but now she is my caretaker.
To those that don't have help(AND little kids)...I hope you have an
uneventful and "easy" recovery! I know it will be so worth it in
the long run :)
— tawker
May 9, 2010
ihad wls nov 24 09. out of henry ford hp next day,5days later back in gym
for two hr workout . no ab crunches for 30 days. ithink the more strict the
program the better the results are. i didn't really like it but it proved
in the long run to be the best.i'v had no complications whatso everand am
down 114 lbs. idon't think it gets much better than that. good luck hank
— hanksguns
May 9, 2010
I am 66 years old and had RNY on Jan 13th, 2010. I was pretty wiped out as
for as wanting to sleep the first day home, but had no pain or discomfort
at all after surgery. We have our grandson at the house during the week and
I will assure you there can be no rest when he is here. I received no real
support from my wife after surgery as she was totally against it.
I find that the most comforting thing for me was my faith in Christ. I
released everything to him even prior to surgery as was ready for any
outcome which was presented. I have since lost eighty pounds and have gone
from a fifty inch waist to a thirty six. I could not begin to tell you how
great I feel. Prior to surgery I had used a cane for the last twenty plus
years and for the last twelve years used an electric scooter to get around.
I have not used a cane or the scooter since four weeks after surgery. Was
it worth it, you be the judge. I now feel as if I am in my mid thirties and
weigh less than I had in over fifty years.
This is the good life. I would do it again every week if I had to.
God Bless and give you Peace
— Jim Christian
May 10, 2010
My mom took a vacation for me while I was having my surgery. Luckily my
brother also came to help as my son was only 18months old and not walking
yet. I went back to school a week after surgery but was not allowed to pick
him up until I was about 3 weeks out.
As long as you don't have to actually pick them up and everything you
should be ok. The only thing I would watch out for is giving them a bath.
Bending over like that may cause pressure on your incision and may cause a
bit of pain.
Other than that I think you'll be able to do it.
Good luck!
— Nina15137
May 10, 2010
I have 5 kids,16,10,6,5,& 5 months... my RNY was 02/09/2010, my mate
only had one week off, to help me out around the house> Your goal after
surgery is to keep moving? ok with that being said. I have not STOPPED
moving yet, even the day after I got home from the hospital. The best rest
your going to get is while your in the hospital. You have extreamly
actively children right now being the age they are. I promise you'll be
fine,I think your putting un-due stress on yourself which is normal, after
you come home from the hospital, it will seem like times are hard &
somedays will be but I know you'll look back and say to your self,
"what was i thinking" .. so dont worry yourself, let the days
come and go just like any other days, and just breath! May 24 is one of our
childrens B-day , so now I know for sure there are 2 special things going
on that day...congrats on your new life...
— [email protected] Folston-Johnson
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