Question:
who has ever felt.........
just thought that i wouls add this how many of you out there allow others to walk all over you pre post because of fear of rejection or embarassment? — Latisha M. (posted on October 23, 2002)
October 23, 2002
I have let myself be a doormat all my life. I'm hoping that I will have a
little more confidence after I have this surgery and lose some of this FAT!
— SandyParker
October 23, 2002
I had always felt that my obesity put me on the lower end of whatever
equation I was in. So, I made up for that by being a doormat, an over
worker, the 'nicest person', on and on and on all of my life. The fact that
any co-worker, family member, or stranger could use my weight against me
stopped me from standing up for myself. I am happy to report that after an
initial adjustment period, that has gone away. I am more confident and
outspoken now, I do NOT allow people to do whatever they want, and I WILL
NOT allow people to take advantage of me just because they feel they can.
That includes family, friends, strangers, and a now 'ex' husband. It was a
hard transition, but it did happen. Good Luck to you!
— Cara F.
October 23, 2002
Im probly the poster child for bein a doormat..I am workin on it but I
NEVER stand up for myself or allow myself to believe im worthy to have
rights and opinions..I allow ppl to boss me around, nevermake ppl repay
owed money,offer my opinions or thoughts..ect..altho I know I DO have
rights I feel like im not as good a person as thin ppl are which isnt true
tho hopefully after my surgery I can work on this more when my self esteem
is higher.. :)
— christine S.
October 23, 2002
doormats come in all shapes and sizes...and ages...and...
— blank first name B.
October 23, 2002
I was one who let people walk all over me also. NOT NOW!
Since surgery, I have developed a personality of a different sort, I tell
people what I'm thinking and don't care what they think. I'm no longer
hiding my feelings. I am human and I have an opinion too.
— Lynda T.
October 23, 2002
I've always been one of the big shouldered broads and rarely let anyone
walk on me. I do however, go out in public less. For now :>)
— [Deactivated Member]
October 23, 2002
I have always been one to let people say or do whatever in my presence.
Sometimes it is not directed at me but at someone I love and I just let it
happen. I don't actually know if it is due to severe incest as a child, I
always has to be so compliant or that I am so fat and feel.....well I guess
unworthy or something. There are so many factors that play into this whole
thing. It is hard to tell. Since I have had this surgery I have to ask
myself hard questions now instead of avoid them in some chinese food
container. Facing things is very enlightening and I think that is where
the change comes in we have an eye opening experience with this surgery.
It entails so much more that I ever thought. The mental changes and
revelations of this surgery are overwhelming at times and I think that is
why we change on the outward emotional level. We are facing things and
finding out a lot about ourselves and tend to get walked on less and less.
Good luck to you all!!!! You are worhty of happiness and respect.
— Peggy A.
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