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don't know what happened, but here is the rest of my question.
My DH is not happy about my lack of sex drive, and I can't really blame him. I found a supplement called Rekindle that contains 250 mg of Calcium, 1250 mg of L-Arginine, ginseng, Damiana Leaf (25 mg), and Ginko Leaf extract. You're supposed to take two tablets twice a day with a multi-vitamin. This is supposed to have "a positive effect on a woman's sexual desire and satisfaction". What do you guys think? This is a little embarassing, but we're all friends here right? Help! This issue is starting to effect my 10 year marriage. Oh, and if you're wondering, this is not just since I've been post-op. It was a problem before. — Lesa H. (posted on February 1, 2003)
February 1, 2003
Hi Lesa, I'd say forget the pills, and just get a little frisky, instead of
"making love" just be kids and play around and fool around with
each other. lol dont try so hard "no pun intended" chew on his
ears, little love bites, on his neck and chest, take turnes, make it fun
and exciting. Maybe spray a little perfume behind your ears or stop by
the store and pick up some great smelling cologne for him, that turns you
on. and let the party begin! ENJOY :0)
— wizz46
February 1, 2003
I agree with Rosemary. Don't try so hard, and forget the pills. If trying
to make it fun doesn't work, maybe you could talk to your regular doctor,
and get some viagra. I'm not kidding! I've read that it's been prescribed
to women too! I know for me, if I get bugged about sex, I don't WANT to
anymore, and I have to say leave me ALONE for a few days. Then, when
"I" want it, it's more fun. Don't give up! :)
— Diana L.
February 1, 2003
I have been having the same problem. I am totatlly not interested at all. I
have asked my gyne about it, he told it could be stress...try to discuss it
with my husband. Well, it hasn't really changed anything. My husband bugs
me constantly and I am always like NO. I wish I knew why...I mean, geez,
it's much more enjoyable, but I am never in the mood, ya know? I hope some
one gives you a really good answer, cuz I am curious too!!!
— bevewy
February 1, 2003
Lesa, I think maybe you should talk to you GYN about that. Your hormones
are getting a little mixed up. He/SHe may be able to help you with that,
you don't say how old you are. But if you are in your 40's you may be
having the beginning of menapause. I went through a time of not being in
the mood after I had my hysterectomy. But, either way I bet your Gyn could
help. Good Luck :-)
— KellyJeanB
February 1, 2003
I am very sorry you are going through this and I know how frustrating it
can be. I have never had this problem myself, in fact, I was in the same
boat as your husband. My desire was strong and my husbands was not, it got
so bad that I considered leaving him. It turned out that once I made up my
mind that I couldn't take it anymore, he started to evaluate what was going
on. His job was putting him through mass amounts of stress and he was so
depressed he was making himself physically ill. He was exhausted all of
the time and he shut himself off from the world and me. Once he realized
it had been destroying me, not just him, he made an effort to focus on what
was really important to him, our marriage and his health. I am not saying
that this is your problem, but I know that stress and other outside
influences can dramatically affect your sex life. Hormone fluctuation and
some birth control methods can also be a factor.
— Karen E.
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