How do you deal with these comments?

sillymilly
on 6/1/14 6:56 am, edited 6/1/14 6:58 am - NC
VSG on 07/17/13

OK this is totally outside my experience, but I've been hearing stuff like this a lot lately: "How much more weight are you trying to lose?" "When are you going to stop losing weight?" "If you lose any more weight you might blow away"

I've just finally gotten comfortable with people telling me I look good, now I have this new situation to face.  Sometimes I just don't want to interact with people at all.  Does anyone have suggestions for how to deal with these comments?  I want to just tell them to mind their own business, but I have to be diplomatic with my co-workers.

Highest weight:  287    Surgery weight:  279   Current weight:  150

      

    

mollz007
on 6/1/14 7:17 am
VSG on 02/20/14

It's a personal decision, but I have gotten to the point where I don't mind talking about my weight. I'll just tell them that I am trying to get down to a healthy weight of 160 pounds, so about 60 more pounds. But it's totally fine to not want to talk about it either, you could just say something like "I am just trying to get to a normal weight range for my size" or something like that.

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cappy11448
on 6/1/14 7:28 am

I've been getting some of this lately.  I jut say I'm still overweight, and want to lose a little more.  I don't give them numbers, and I just pretend its a compliment. 

best wishes,

Carol

    

Surgery May 1, 2013. Starting Weight 385,  Surgery Weight 333,  Current Weight 160.  At GOAL!

Weight loss Pre-op 1-20 2-17 3-15 Post-op 1-20 2-18 3-15 4-14 5-16 6-11 7-12  8-8

                  9-11 10-7 11-7 12-7 13-8 14-6 15-3 16-7 17-3  18-3

     

Miss150
on 6/1/14 7:33 am

here's how i handle awkward questions.... "How much more weight are you trying to lose?" ----why, thank you for noticing; i'm working really hard at becoming as healthy as i can.  "When are you going to stop losing weight? ----why, thank you for noticing; i'm working really hard at becoming as healthy as i can. ...."If you lose any more weight you might blow away" ----why, thank you for noticing; i'm working really hard at becoming as healthy as i can. ......ad nausium...they will get the idea, and at the same time (do be sincerely nice about it) you get points for being polite 

  goal!!! August 20, 2013   age: 59  High weight: 345 (June, 2011)  Consult weight: 293 (June, 2012)  Pre-Op: 253 (Nov., 2012) Surgery weight: 235 (Dec. 12, 2012) Current weight: 145

 TOTAL POUNDS LOST- 200 (110 pounds lost before surgery, 90 pounds lost Post Op.diabetes in remission-blood pressure normal-cholesterol and triglyceride levels normal!  BMI from 55.6  supermorbidly obese to 23.6  normal!!!!  

 

 

skeller
on 6/1/14 11:49 am - Austin, TX
VSG on 05/01/14 with

LOL!!!! I love you, Miss150!

DOB 1958, HT 5'4" . . . HW 310, SW 281, CW 184.3

M1 -25, M2 -7, M3 -11.9, M4 -7.6, M5 -11.8, M6 -9.6, M7 -1.7, M8 -10, M9 -5, M10 -5

    

sonia29
on 6/1/14 12:01 pm
lol Love it!

 

29y/ 5'4 / HW 265/SW 255/CW 120.1/Final goal 125

    

DiaMon
on 6/1/14 7:35 am
VSG on 03/12/14

People at work have begun to see my weight change and say "You've lost some weight huh? You look good." Which hey, is not invasive, until you get those other people that probably aren't fond of you and ask what you'v pointed out. I just flat out say that I'll lose whatever needs to be lost an I'll leave it up to my body to decide, and give them thanks for noticing. 

Surgery Date: 3•12•14 HW:264 SW:240 // GOAL WEIGHT 160 lbs REACHED on 08/24/14 REVISED GOAL: 140 

REVISED GOAL REACHED: 01/12/2015 CURRENT WEIGHT: 135 (=

   

Fran001
on 6/1/14 7:50 am - MI

I just say I'm continuing to work with my doctor and nutritionist to improve my  health.

Gwen M.
on 6/1/14 8:05 am
VSG on 03/13/14

"Thanks for your feedback!"  And change the subject.  

If the person doesn't get the hint, "That's not something I'm interested in discussing with you."  Followed by a change in subject.  

Or, "I'm under the supervision of my medical team."  Change the subject.  

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

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grayC
on 6/1/14 8:13 am
VSG on 05/01/13

I used to try to patiently explain that no, I'm not done,

I'm actually still over weight or I have personal goals I need to meet

and blah...blah..blah..

now I just say YUP! IM DONE!

 

   

        
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