Checking in at 21 months postop...or I'm still breathing

Thank you!  I wouldn't go so far as to say happy, but I'm OK.  Haha.  Just being is extraordinarily difficult for me, but I think it's an important lesson.  In therapy we talked about being present, taking pride in who you/what you do right now even if you are working towards something.  I'd always thought those things were mutually exclusive.  How could you possibly feel proud of yourself if you have a goal to achieve?  Which is ridiculous.  Success is however we define it.  Why not choose to view yourself as successful?  We all have things to get over or learn, we all fall down, make mistakes, do stupid things that we know will not actually make us feel good in the long run, but doesn't trying to be better, be healthier equal success?  I don't know, but that seems much more hopeful to me :)

I am so happy for you learning so much about yourself at such a young age. Some of us are really slow earners. (Raising my hand).

You have accomplished so much. Thank for sharing your insight.💝

Aww thank you!  I think maybe I just spend an inordinate amount of time thinking about myself :)  Only child and all.

Thank you so much for your update!  It is always interesting to see everyone's journey and to hear how you are doing.  It sounds like you have made an emotional journey just as deep as your weight loss journey.  Congratulations on your results and especially on all the hard work you are doing!

Thanks! I am trying. :)

Funny or weird. I haven't been on the forum or posted in a while. Today I was feeling a bit like talking about my 16 month journey, signed on and saw your post. You said exactly what I wanted to say.  Wow.......Thanks

My pleasure. I tend to think that losing weight is the easy part of all this :)

wow this made me cry and I hardly cry...I really needed to hear this...I have been over weight for about 10 years and prior I was always thin...In the past ten years I have been treated so different...It's true I need to work on me now...thank you

I think it's a double edged sword.  I think our behavior or perception of ourselves can also lead to people treating us differently, and I think we also allow it.  There are also people who just do treat obese people differently.  I can't tell you the amount of doors that are opened for me now as opposed to two years ago, or men asking to help me carry something, or people just being so friendly in general.  It's very, very strange.  It can make me angry, but then I realize it's not just that I'm thin, it's also that I feel better about myself.  Who knows.  We all need to work on ourselves.  It's good, worthwhile work :)

Your honesty is refreshing, thank you for sharing.  This journey is a roller coaster and I really believe we have no idea what we are going to experience until we are going through it.  I've gained and lost so much more then I could have imagined.

God bless, M