Last night i spoke with a newbie psych about my thoughts
I want to tell you,just for reference, that NOT everyone has the struggles some on this site speak of. I had no trouble from the day I was cleared from my leak test with drinking or eating AT ALL. Do I know when my sleeve is full? Definately. Just thought you needed a counterpoint to factor into your thought process.
Edited to add:
When you are exploring your feelings again,maybe you could touch on feeling about what might happen to you health wise if you DON"T have the surgery and how that is affecting your decision. since you have touched on how HAVING the surgery makes you feel,it would be a good counter point.
Thanks for the post. Your insights are fascinating.
on 1/11/12 6:49 am
The reason the surgery works initially is that you DONT have to fix the overeating yourself - the surgery does it FOR you . Later ,you HAVEto maintain it though :(
Congrats on being proactive( and aware ) !
DD-I don't normally share my "story" in such in such an open forum, but since you showed so much courage in doing so, I feel I must follow suit. I am guessing I am much older than you (I'm 54), but reading YOUR story could be like reading my OWN.
Maybe parents don't REALIZE how much simple WORDS can damage their kids. I was the only "fat one" of 6 kids. An embarassment to my Barbie mother? Did the harsh words make me eat less? Obviously NOT.
You have my UTMOST admiration for facing your "demons", and talking to someone--and God bless your cousin, who obviously loves you, and will be a great support system.
As for your post op "fears"-it's OKAY to be fearful-I'd be WAY worried if you were NOT scared. I can only tell you MY experience-I am nearly 10 years post RNY-lots of bumps in the road along the JOURNEY, including a 70 lb regain/reloss-I've now lost half myself (-170 lbs), and am at "number goal"-have completed 2 half marathons-am on no Diabetes or blood pressure meds, etc anymore, etc, etc. I cannot eat ice cream or pork..small prices to pay for health-for ME. Everyone must make their own choices.
My prediction is that you will have great success!
RNY 4-22-02...
LW: 6lb,10 oz SW:340lb GW:170lb CW:155
We Can Do Hard Things
Are you dead set on RNY? I see you are afraid of malabsorption. I am too. I had two surgeries. The band and VSG. The band didn't work out, but the VSG is great. I chose them because they don't involve any rerouting. The VSG just makes your stomach much smaller and is the most natural of all of the surgeries.
It is good that you are talking all of this out with someone and coming here for support. Food addiction is very hard to overcome. The surgery helps because you just can't eat as much as you want. You will probably still want to eat a lot, but you won't be able to.
I don't know if you are a sugar junkie or not. None of the surgeries are going to work very well if you don't get a sugar jones under control. If you are just a volume eater, you will have a much better chance of getting thing under better control.
For many of us, food was/is our everything, well not quite, but it sure can fill in a lot of cracks. This won't change overnight. It will be a constant struggle, but one you will have some help with once you get WLS.
I wish you would look into the VSG, I don't know how much you have to lose or if you have any metabolic problems, but it could be the best surgery for you if you just need a restrictive procedure.
Best of luck to you in whatever the future holds for you.
Phyllis
"Me agreeing with you doesn't preclude you from being a deviant."