Major move to stand up for myself.
It is only Dec. 3 and already I've had 2 people send home holiday treats with me. I don't mean to single them out, but I realize that I will NEVER survive this month (I am pre-op) without putting a stop to this. Normally I would never rock the boat or say anything because I wouldn't want to make people feel bad, but I just posted this on Facebook:
"
I am working on this very thing... "don't rock the boat" OMG those words ring in the back of my head every single day... I need that phrase to die a burning hot death!!
I never say anthing to anyone, I never want to make people mad, or to have conflict of any sort in my life... but in doing this... I get walked on, I get myself mad because I agreed to do something I don't want to.
Your facebook status to friends and family was very tastefully done... You could have said: "Do not under any cir****tances send any holiday goodies to my house anymore." LOL...and it still would have been appropriate!
Juls
Family Dr. 06/05/2012 Referral Received 06/28/2012 Orientation 08/01/2012 NP 08/27/2012
SW 08/28/2012 Nut Class 08/27/2012
NUT 10/01/2012 PS 10/01/2012
Surgeon Dr. Cyriac 12/07/2012 **SURGERY JAN 30, 2013**
I am working on this very thing... "don't rock the boat" OMG those words ring in the back of my head every single day... I need that phrase to die a burning hot death!!
I never say anthing to anyone, I never want to make people mad, or to have conflict of any sort in my life... but in doing this... I get walked on, I get myself mad because I agreed to do something I don't want to.
Your facebook status to friends and family was very tastefully done... You could have said: "Do not under any cir****tances send any holiday goodies to my house anymore." LOL...and it still would have been appropriate!
Juls
I would have added "under penalty of death!" bahahahahahahahaha!
Very nicely put - I don't see how anyone can take offense to that.
Lowish BMI? See Lightweights Board! Lightweight Creed For more on DS see www.DSfacts.com
If you don't have peace, it isn't because someone took it from you; you gave it away. You cannot always control what happens to you, but you can control what happens in you John C Maxwell
Sleeve 2010 Dr López Corvala, Mexico. DS 2012 Dr Himpens, Belgium
I my DS
I think the ones *****ally care about you will respect your wishes...the ones who like to play the devil will still continue to ignor your wishes...good luck...stay strong...you can do it...
on 12/3/12 7:24 am
Nice action --- but, unfortunately the buck stops with you.
You have a garbage can, probably a garbage disposal, too -- use them ----- you can't eat what is gone.
"No, thank you" are powerful words --- I also say, "No, thank you, I don't eat that and it will go to waste" ----
You are going to have to live in a world where your children and spouse eat food that you do not eat --- whatever that looks like for you -- in my house, if my husband brings cookies or sweets into the house, he puts them out of my vision. That does not mean he does not eat them -- or even eat them in the house, but I don't know about it.
The point was that I'm finally standing up for myself. The fb post is a first step & alerts people. Obviously I will no longer accept stuff, either.
The whole pt of wls, for me, is to give me a chance to change my habits and how I think about food. Your response was pretty callous & insulting. I think you must have forgotten what it was like to live without your band. If you had, without that tool, the kind of power you describe, you wouldn't need it.