overweight partner??
My partner is overweight. He does not have insurance so could not have WLS if he wanted to, but he has stated that he would not want surgery if it was an option for him. He's seen what I've been through and he thinks it looks harder than he'd want to go through. Lately he has been losing some weight, though. He decided, on his own, to cut out the junk food for the most part.
I don't really know if he felt jealous when I was losing a lot of weight. If he dd, he didn't mention it to me. He never seemed anything but happy for me.
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Be loving and supportive-but if her behavior is becoming self destructive, maybe you can offer to see someone with her to help work through it?
Sounds like you are both good for each other, she's just reached a point where she needs some outside help to get through a rough patch.
Wishing you the best on your journey.
I am concerned about my hubby's health, which I feel is different to bring up. Recently, he mentioned surgery, but I'd be shocked if he followed through.
Counselling isn't a bad idea. Open communication is a must.
Good luck,
Laura
It sounds like you are doing all you can do. Maybe counseling would help.
Laura
Laura in Texas
53 years old; 5'7" tall; HW: 339 (BMI=53); GW: 140 CW: 170 (BMI=27)
RNY: 09-17-08 Dr. Garth Davis
brachioplasty: 12-18-09 Dr. Wainwright; lbl/bl: 06-28-11 Dr. LoMonaco
"May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears."
All you can do is be supportive, at the end of the day this is a issue that your partner has to work through.
He is cooking for himself and I have noticed he is eating about double of what he would have eaten if I were cooking !!!
He says he would NEVER have surgery , although I think the sleeve would be great for him...BUT I am not in charge of his weight and health...he is. But I am scared that he will have more health issues than he does now!!
My son in law has about 150-200 to loose and he said if I would find out all the info for him , he would do the surgery, I told him it was up to him to do ALL the work himself, I am not in charge of anyone but myself.
I can understand how you would feel a bit guilty , to be excited about your weight loss and your partner feeling how you did 50 lbs ago. It is kinda like winning the lottery and still having friends who are having trouble paying their bill , although in that case you could do something about it , but it wouldn't be wise.
I think the therapy would help , maybe you could go and ask her to come with you??
Donna Q. --5'8" -60 years old
Band 2005
hw320 sw276 lw with band 195 gw 160-180?
Bypass 4/4/2012
pre sw 258 lw RNY 162 cw 203
First ultra: Stone Mill 50 miler 11/15/14 13:44:38, First Full Marathon: Marine Corps 10/27/13 4:57:11, Half Marathon PR 2:04:43 at Shamrock VA Beach Half-Marathon, 12/2/12 First Half-Marathon 2:32:47, 5K PR Run Under the Lights 5K 27:23 on 11/23/13, 10K PR 52:53 Pike's Peek 10K 4/21/13, (1st timed run) Accumen 8K 51:09 10/14/12.
She eats a different diet than I do. My son eats a different diet than either of us. We kind of run a flop house around here.
Her weight is HERS.
I found it better to talk endlessly about RNy stuff here. She didn't really wanna talk about vitamins or protein shakes. This is my place to ramble endlessly about Rnystuff.
I think the decision to have weight loss surgery is a very big and personnel thing. I would focus on your recovery.
Deb T.