How can I reassure my husband???
The fact is, I know this happens. I know my life will change and all that. But I know for sure how I feel about him and our marriage. We have a good marriage and I don't see that ever changing. I feel that some marriages have ended and because the marriages weren't that strong to begin with. One reason I want wls is because I want to have a baby with my husband. My weight has left my infertile and we have gotten through some pretty tough times dealing with that and miscarriages. I know we can get through this but I can't make him believe me. Any advice from those who have gone through this?
Thanks!
Sandy
HW 225, SW 219, GW 140, CW 124
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!
My husband has the same fears. When i started researching and asking him about it he said he was all for it with one exception--that i not leave him. I laughed and told him that my weght isnt what is keeping me with him. If i wanted to divorce or leave him i would now- all 300lbs of me. hahaha i am with him because i love him. lol that seemed to calm him down.
The fact is, I know this happens. I know my life will change and all that. But I know for sure how I feel about him and our marriage. We have a good marriage and I don't see that ever changing. I feel that some marriages have ended and because the marriages weren't that strong to begin with. One reason I want wls is because I want to have a baby with my husband. My weight has left my infertile and we have gotten through some pretty tough times dealing with that and miscarriages. I know we can get through this but I can't make him believe me. Any advice from those who have gone through this?
Thanks!
Yes, some people lose weight and then leave their partners. And some people stay fat and leave their partners. It sounds as if there is no reason for him to think you would leave him.
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I would encourage you to show him what you have written here...
As well, you might want to explain to him that the type of insecurities he is expressing are not fostering a positive outlook for your marriage, and you would very much appreciate if he would please stop. Let him know that his focus would be much better served fostering a good marriage outlook rather than turning a good marriage into a doomed one by fostering nothing more than what are his own insecurities.
Then haul his butt off to the bedroom and show him how much you love him and where your loyalties will always be.