Starting pre op diet
Hi family. My surgery is May 4th. I just finished the passover holiday which was brutal food wise. I am determined to make this work, because, I do not have any other choice, if I want to live. I am very fearful on multiple fronts. First, I fear I will not make it through the pre op stage in one piece. Secondly, I fear the surgery itself. Third the recovery stage, and will I be able to follow the eating regiment properly. liquid, mushy, soft and finally regular. I am very busy with a new venture at business which will require me to travel post op I'm scared of making choices overseas, and getting sick, with my history of not being able to control my food intake, in the past. I also live in a house that food is a priority, and unhealthy long meals are the norm. A wife, that does not want to change her ways, so, I have to be prepared to do, what I have to do, on my own as well. Please, does anyone have any suggestions as to how to take care of myself trough this journey, with the situations I mentioned. It is great to have a forum of experienced rny'ers to get encouragement and help from, any suggestions will be greatly appreciated. Sorry for the long post.
first off , hello from Canada and congrats on your upcoming surgery , my revision RNY surgery is just may 26th so the same month as you , im gonna say this , you should be proud of yourself got taking notice of what is healthy and whats not that's actually a very important step , the same as being nervious that's a completely normal feeling . but I look at it this way , Your still here .. Your changing your life to better You and Your health and making choices is always scary for most people but look at it this way Your starting over , just like a new birthday for you ,, You have so many others like me on here who will think about you and will talk whenever your feeling confused or down about something ,, not everyone has a support system which sometimes is hard but maybe that other person is dealing with there own issues like perhaps trying to come to grips with you being different maybe even some insecurities there ,, my feeling is always communication works ,, take a evening just maybe both of you , talk about your feelings,,, your fears and perhaps ways that the unhealthy food can be put someplace different to help you with your new start in life , also maybe even doing your own personal shopping and finding healthy stuff only you will enjoy or encourage your family to join in and try ,,, traveling is sometimes tricky but I learned from my first surgery that kids menus work wonders , salads as well and everywhere almost has salads , try to not stress yourself and just take this one day at a time , You have a purpose in life like everyone does , so many had this surgery and come out doing wonderful which I know you will as well , its like closing your eyes and waking up to a new beginning , were all on this journey day and night someone is always in this form who like you needs a friend , Im here if you need support after all were in the same surgery month so I will be thinking and watching the form to hear how good you feel after surgery , like many others on here ,we all experience almost everything you do , You have lots of surgery buddies now feel free to vent anytime you need ,,, lots of people give the best advice on here , food suggestions , you will always get on here and once this is over with you will smile all the time , wishing you the best feel free to vent anytime something is on your mind , try to relax and take a deep breath because you get a new start very soon with lots of new friends now
Hey, we're surgery date twins! 
I start the pre-op process next Monday and am similarly scared, although I'm lucky enough that my husband is having his WLS a week after mine and is willing to do the pre-op diet for 3 weeks instead of 2 so we can start at the same time. I completely understand your fears about the food stages, too. I'm going to a national conference 5 weeks after surgery, and I have no idea what I'll be able to eat. I'm traveling by Amtrak and am already looking up dining car menus, lol. Can you take your own food at all? I made sure to get a hotel with a fridge, and I'm planning to take my own cooler of cheese sticks and Greek yogurt just in case.
I'm sorry your wife isn't willing to change her ways right now. You can't force her to change, but you can lead by example and see if she might decide to make a change on her own later down the road. Sorry I can't offer any wisdom from experience as I'm still pre-op too, but I can at least sympathize with your worries. Good luck to you!
