Saturday night slipup

If you click on "more" at the bottom of your post, there should be an edit option.  But, with the new interface, if your comment is the last one currently on a page, the edit option might be cut off.  

Yes,  it's a very cowardly thing to do.

Bravo  Allison. 

It's rather telling that he opted to delete his negative comments towards you rather than have the character and integrity to stand behind his words.

Everyone falls off the wagon at some time.  It's impossible to be on plan 100% of the time.   What matters is that you dust yourself off and start back on program again. Don't beat yourself up for it.   You've done an amazing job and recognized what you did.  I know for myself I would block my bad eating habits out of my mind and perpetuate them. 

We're not like smokers or alcoholics who can avoid our vices completely.  We are faced with food choices everyday.  This does not signal doomsday as some people preach.  I applaud you for your success and response to someone who has never offered you support,  but responded when he could chastise you.  

I don't know that I dare post, not even having the status of 'newbie' yet. But I think poor decisions and mistakes happen in all areas of our lives, not just in what we eat. Certainly we have more emotional attachment to dietary indiscretions but still.

There is a phrase my clinical instructor shared with me my 1st year of nursing school--'relax, relate, release.' 1st step-relax, take a deep breath. 2nd-relate, what do I need to take away from this situation, what do I need to learn from this, apply, apologize for, etc. And 3rd, release-let the frustrations, upset, anger, insert the appropriate emotion go-do not let it hinder you from making progress the rest of that hour, day, week, etc. 

Its a simple, perhaps even trite, phrase. But I have used it for over 10 years, shared it with many (quite a few of whom use it too--just heard a young nurse share it with a nursing student), and find it to be one of the most helpful tools I ever acquired.

Oh I really like this! I need to start using it :)

Thank you both! I have found it to be applicable in practically every area of my life and in almost all cir****tances. Sometimes the 'relate' step is WAY involved but the process is the same. 

I like your three Rs!  Good advice.  

By now this is yesterday's news.  What did you learn?  First of all, it did not make you happy or feel good.  Ok - during this journey I have slipped up at times.  I don't drink but certainly have had things off plan in the losing phase- not proud of it but moved on.  

In maintenance, I am still learning.  I feel physically better when I eat my normal plan- protein first, etc.  I have a 5lb window- when I go above goal I work my way back down.  It is NOT easy but easier than before surgery.  You have done well and will continue to do so.  The first time I had one cookie I was ashamed.  Really? How stupid!  You are learning what works for you and what you need to do.

Keep up the good work.  This does not mean you are going down the slippery slope.  You recognize it and move on- learn.

Thank you, everyone. I'm up way early kind of going over all this stuff in my head and you have really helped with that. I really appreciate it.