ANewDayforRose
Update
Jun 16, 2009
Well...I went in for a fill in March and after about a month I went back because I was not able to eat any fruits or veggies and I was having heart burn everyday and I asked for some fluid out. I had lost some weight initially after the fill but then began to gain again. The NP and the PA tag teamed me and told me that the band was not working for me and that I should convert to the bypass. They said I was not too tight at all and the PA seemed really irritated when I insisted that she take fluid out. I asked her to take 2 cc's out. She said 'you're not going to lose weight if I take fluid out' I said I'm not losing weight now and I have heartburn all the time and I can't eat fruits and vegetables. That's when she told me to convert to the bypass. I felt totally defeated. I did get the 2 ccs out and I feel a lot better. I can still tell I have a band (I think I have about 8 ccs in my band).
I've been in the middle of a huge transition in my life (leaving my job, moving, returning to school). The last 2 weeks I've been walking for 30+ minutes several times a week (not quite every day) and I've been focusing on the gabriel method way of eating which what I took from it was when you eat ask yourself where is the progein, where is the live food and where is the omega 3. I don't do it everytime, but it's a start. Check out the Gabriel Method on Amazon. It's worth the read! It's quite inspriation, certainly not a quick fix, it is more about changing who you are.
What I have come to realize is that the band helps with not allowing you to eat a lot of food fast. That, unfortunately, is only a small part of the problem for me. And so the band only helped a little for me! I do not think converting to the bypass is the best solution for me either. I am afraid that I would end up being one of the bypass failures as well (like the guy on Biggest Loser). There is more to being overweight that the amount of food we eat. I need to address the emotional eating aspect. I need to address the exercise aspect. I need to figure out who I want to be. I want to be a person who likes to move their body. I want to be a person who finds a way to deal with emotions rather than eating ice cream or chips (and not just a little either). So one step at a time. I'm not back to square one - I'm still down about 30 pounds from where I was when I went for my initial consult almost 2 years ago. I'm a band failure (in the eyes of my bariatric center) but I am not a failure as a person. So I'm no longer focused on the band. I am focused on re-inventing myself (which I wish I had been able to do when I had the surgery, but things happen the way they do).
So that's my story for now!
Whispering...
Apr 02, 2009
Pressing on...
Apr 01, 2009
I had a fill 2 weeks ago. She pulled out 10 ccs and put in .5 ccs, I was too full and puked the water, so she took out .25 (basically a drop). So I'm full up. It was an eye opener for me. I realized that the issue IS me. Yikes.
So I was observing my eating the last 2 weeks and realized that it was the sugar cravings that was doing me in. So this weekend I did find that MP3 hypnosis download for sugar cravings. Yesterday and today I made a cooked vegetable to bring into work. Both times I eat a little and feel uncomfortable. Hmmmm. Last week I was able to eat frozen WW dinners, but this week cooked cauliflower and broccoli makes me feel uncomfortable? So I am confused by that. I was on liquids on Sunday (prepping for a colonscopy), but Monday I ate fine, but didn't have veggies. (Wait...I did throw up part of my lunch, but I thought that was because I ate too fast) So I"m not sure what is going on. So I'm trying to figure out if I'm too tight or not. I haven't thrown them up, but feel them in the pouch.
So that's my story. I'm pressing on....nothing else to do but that!
Gabriel Method
Mar 08, 2009
So last Saturday I downloaded the Gabriel Method to my kindle. I downloaded the MP3 file from the website to listen to as I fall asleep and I've been listening to that for the last week too. I finished the book yesterday. There is a little bit of new stuff there. And overall I like all the stuff he has thrown in. It's all stuff I've tried in the past - eating better, omega 3s, visualization, self-hypnosis, affirmations, positive thinking, etc. The new stuff for me is his theory that our bodies are operating from a biological/survival stance and our bodies think it is in our best interests to stay fat, and that is why we cannot lose. His theory is that the fat programs get turned on because our bodies think it is in our best interest and so we have to turn them off. They get turned on with chronic stress - both physical and emotional. So it takes away that sting of failure and gives you a different approach to the same problem.
So...I think I'm seeing some positive results as far as my thinking and my eating. He says that when we eat we need to think of 3 things - where is the live food, where is the omega 3s, and where is the protein. So that has been my approach for the last 2 days....and I have to say I like it! And my appetites at least for the last 2 days has been decreased. So I'm hopeful. It can't hurt anyway. Ohh....he mentions Khalia Ali and she is also on his website. He counseled her before and after her lapband and she Incorporated some of his methods with her band.
For me, the band and the approach I've taken with the band is not giving me results. So this method deals more with what is behind the getting/staying fat....so let's hope this nets better results for me!
Back to Basics
Feb 15, 2009
So....I guess if I'm not losing then it is me! It could be that I just do not experience the band like everyone else. I guess that's possible? What I thought the band could do for me is not really possible for me, at least from the past year I will say that. I thought it would tell me 'you're done', I thought it would make me not think about food (had read posts from other bandsters that said just that), I thought it would make me not feel hunger (read posts about that too). From this past year what my band has told me is that I can eat anything I want in any quantity, as long as I eat slow. I don't believe anyone WANTS to get around the band. But it does happen. As they say they band is around your stomach, not your mind.
I need a supportive environment to succeed. In the beginning I was counting calories and the dietitian said I didn't need to do that. Well that screwed me up. I'm hyper-sensitive to criticism and I took it as criticism. In fact I've taken just about all comments from my bariatric center as criticism. I guess I don't like feeling vulnerable and having to admit that 1) I need help, and 2) I don't know how to do it. So any words of correction have been viewed by me as criticism. And they always set me back. I've never connected with the NP and in fact my first meeting with her before the surgery infuriated me. They have added a new PA and luckily I have my appointment with her in March. I hope she is better, I hope we can connect. I hope I can feel supported. I hope I can make that clear to her that I need to feel supported.
There are posters on the the lap-band board that have no tolerance for people who are not succeeding. There is no environment for assistance with strugglers. The messages back are that you are stupid, you are uniformed, you are lazy, you are sabotaging, etc. That is not a supportive environment. And that is just what I've seen - I have not posted my failure except in response to others who are struggling.
Okay all my bitching is done.
My new goal is to be 'obese'. For me that's 232. And I'd like to be there by July 11th when I go to away that weekend. I bought some foods from bariatricchoice.com to help supplement my day with a bit more protein, especially if I need snacks. I got them Thursday and I already notice a difference (or it could be the new fill). My new approach is to try to eat as little as possible and be satisfied. I know, I know, why didn't I try this before. Oh well. It's all a process. I have to forgive my failings and move forward. So it's been 6 days - doing well. To be continued.
Another fill scheduled for tomorrow
Feb 09, 2009
Oh....I pd'd tonight. yeah, really. I think the soy chips I ate got stuck a little. So....doesn't that mean I DO have some restriction????? In less then 12 hours I will know...this will angst will be over with. I will know if there is a problem with the band, or with my attitude!
January post?
Jan 19, 2009
Back to WW
Dec 21, 2008
I've been having a lot of discomfort in my shoulder and arm (frozen shoulder). I also was told this past week that I'm being forced to take a position that I turned down last summer. Now there is no choice. This change will take place Feb 2 (my birthday!) So there was certainly a lot of things against my desire to be health conscious and proactive with my eating/band.
Band contradictions
Dec 12, 2008
I can eat a BK double bacon cheeseburger and onion rings (1000 calories), but cannot eat 2 turkey sausage breakfast patties (100 calories) without throwing up.
I went to my group Monday night. The dietitian was there and she was actually good. When I met with her in person I hated her and thought her info was stupid, but in the group I liked her and liked what she had to say. But I must say I left the group feeling a little down. I'm a rebellious person apparently. I do not believe what 'authorities' tell me. I have to research it myself, or find out by trial and error. Oh I'm sure that this is some psychological defect of mine which is a combination of my born personality and my upbringing. But at 47 this probably is not going to change. This is who I am. And this is also why I am struggling with my weight loss.
When I chose weight loss surgery it was because I was done with dieting. Done with trying and I wanted help. I have been disappointed that the band does not help me more. But the band is not the bypass or the DS, so the band is still all about calories in, calories burned. On Thursday night I worked late. For some reason working late means to me that I need a food treat. Part of it is that I'm overly hungry and so I start craving 'bad' foods. So to burger king I went. And i ate the whole thing! I was slow....but it all went down.
I've resisted the band rules from day 1. The dietitian says I don't need to diet, but I need to follow band rules. I say the band rules ARE a diet. The rules are triggering that rebellion in me. And so I am in no man's land...or no band's land. I've struggled with that for 10 months. Okay...I think I'm finally willing to accept the rules! I'm not a slow learner, I'm a rebellious person! So today I was back on the band-wagon. I ate my 2 turkey sausage patties. I've eaten them before and thrown up, but because I could eat that whole BK meal I thought maybe my band loosened up or something so I ate the sausage. It didn't work for me, again.
So my new plan is to try to work on a rule or 2 at a time. Rules that I resist are stopping my meal at 30 minutes. So that is going to be the first rule I try to master. I'm good with the chewing and not drinking with meals. Harder rules will be no sweets. I'm not even going there yet.
So that's where I'm at. I get discouraged when I read the posts on the boards and even when I go to the group because I'm not doing as well. I do finally have restriction though, but that's not the end of the story apparently. This journey is going to have to be my own. And apparently a good portion of that journey is working around the rebellion and the need to treat myself with food.
Weight loss since fill
Nov 28, 2008
I weighed myself this morning - I've actually been forgetting to weigh myself this week. I was pleasantly surprised. I've lost 8.2 pounds since my fill Nov 14. I'm still up from last June, but I'll take it. Hopefully it continues to go down.