DonnaMaria
Shame on me!
Jul 14, 2007
I learned a big lesson this past month as far as the band is concerned. I was too tight. Way too tight. My first fill came almost three months after surgery. My second fill came six weeks later. As soon as I had the second fill I started having food issues. I ate too fast so I blamed everything on that. I didn't realize it but it was getting worse and worse so I started eating easy food (aka soft food syndrome). Alot of soups, yogurt, cereal, and tons of nuts for protein. Since I was eating easy foods I decided if I didn't get stuck for two weeks I could get another fill. So five months after my second fill I had my third. Although it was probably one of the stupidest things I have done of recent it was a blessing in disguise. I was so tight that I could barley get anything down even the soft stuff. I was going on vacation so two weeks after the fill I had my Dr. take out all but 1cc. When I told them to take so much out they were a little concerned that I was going to gain. To be honest I really didn't care. I was sick of worrying about eating. So I got my unfill and left for vacation a week later.
NEVER, EVER let yourself be overfilled. It will backfire on you. My weight loss since my second fill has been about 20 lbs. Since my unfill I lost 3 pounds and that is on vacation. I am not getting stuck and I am eating much less because I can finally eat enough to get full.
Six and a half months
Mar 26, 2007
I still eat too fast and don't always drink enough water but other than that the band has been a perfect method for my weight loss.
The band does not allow me to overeat. I still need to eat less but that will come with restriction. If I go out to eat I only eat half of what is on my plate. I have no interest in the bread basket. How awsome is that.
What is the story with Sizes these Days?
Feb 07, 2007
Today I officially slipped on a size 16 pants. Now the truth of the matter is that they were Lee chinos and as every full sized woman knows all Lee pants are kind to the larger woman. Doesn't their slogan say something like - Made for real women?
Now here is the real deal. I tried on about 20 pairs of sz 16 pants. Some I could not even get up my thighs, some were four inches from closing and of course my Lee's that I gladly purchased.
What got me thinking is since when did a size 16 fit a 225 lb. woman? I can remember being in High School, 150 lbs and wearing a 16. Yes I know juniors vs. misses but come on? Is there a 75 lb. differnce in juniors to misses. I think not. Sizes are in fact getting bigger. As our society gets bigger so does the size of a 16 misses.
So, yes I am excited that I have a size 16 pants but I am also aware that 25 years ago my 16's would be a 20! And that's the cold hard truth!
***I try to have one size smaller than I am wearing for inspiration so that's why I was even trying size 16's!
Good Advise on OH!
Feb 05, 2007
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Hawthorne, NJ Member Since: 08/24/06 [Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 5:13 am Good Morning Everyone, loss/wQw4hvL/">
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 Pflugerville, TX (05/12/05)
Member Since: 02/07/05[Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 6:08 am
Hi Sweety, well I was one of those teenagers. I was smart but did not want to apply myself at all. My mother did nothing about it. And I absolutely resent her for it today. Yes, I do. IMO, he should not be allowed to disrespect you especially about school. i would tell him that if he wants to remain in sports he will do his homework. If he still treats you like crap tell his coaches. They won't stand for it either. The next step is....bye bye friends until he does the homework. Sorry but, looking back if my mom had done all this I would have a totally different life now. Good luck and God Bless!   300/278/170
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 North Shore Area, MA Member Since: 08/30/06 [Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 6:53 am
Hey girl!, That is funny I also resented my mom for a long time for not holding me accountable. Now I tell teens that I know that they will eventually regret it when they are making minimum wage, and all of thier friends are driving nice cars and buying houses. Then there is the struggle of trying to work and get through college. Ugh who knew being a slacker would cause this much work?lol ~Cathleen |
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 North of Boston, MA Member Since: 11/16/05 [Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 6:21 am
You've got to make it about choices and consequences for him. It also means having it eat up a lot more of your time. I agree with Lara, you have to be willing to have him miss/drop sports if you are not seeing academic results. DD is 13, in high honors but I still check to see what homework she has and ask her if X is finished/started. As long as she gets good grades I let her work on her own. If she is struggling with a subject or is clearly not getting it done we start working at the kitchen table. I will set up my laptop or get a magazine or whatever and just sit around while she does her work. It is a huge waste of my time (depending on how you look at it) but it gets results. Especially once they hit teenage years I really feel like the kids have to want it to - we can't make it happen for them. However, it's our job as parents to set things up (schedule, accountability, workable approach) so that they can get things done in a way that leaves everyone sane. I'll talk with DD before the weekend about how late we're going to be allowed to sleep in and what work, both schoolwork and housework, I expect to be done over the weekend. I give her a chance to help me figure it out and make it plain that even if we sleep in until 11 am, the laundry and that history project still have to get worked on so if there are other weekend, goofing-off activities maybe we need to do the school work first or, god-forbid, get up at 9 or 10 am lol. I'm just starting the teenage adventure but I can tell it's going to be quite a ride. Good Luck, Kim
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 Atwater, CA Member Since: 06/16/05 [Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 6:33 am
Hi Donna, I too was one of those students, it didn't take me till I was in college on my own paying for school that things changed. But, I have to agree with Kim, you have to set up some rewards/consequences for him. Let him be a part of the process however, this way when he breaks his own rules he has no one to complain to since he was a part of the process of making up the rules. If he is unwilling, then ya got to get tough with them, the worst thing for a teen is to have parents show up during school questioning their work. That is one thing that might spur him into action, is to let him know you'll be checking up on him at school and at home, then stick to it if you can. Also, one thing some of our teachers did in high school especially if they were participating in sports/band is that they had to have a report each week from each teacher before they can participate, if the report was bad then they had to pay the consequences. Dr. Aceves, M.D. Mexicali Mx Lapband D.O.B. 1/27/06 370 beginning/180/175 by Surgeversay/130 Summer 07
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Hawthorne, NJ Member Since: 08/24/06 [Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 6:40 am
Wow, Thanks everyone. I was also one of those people, like you Lara, that my parents did not get involved in school. As long as I showed up and didn't flunk out that was fine with them. They were the best parents in the whole world however I do resent the fact that they didn't take an active role in my schooling. Not only that but they didn't give me any direction when it came to higher education. I guess that is why this drives me crazy. I am taking the time to care and give my kids 100% support. They need a tutor - no problem. They need two tutors - we will find the money. I think you are all right and whoever said call the coach is right on track there. They don't agree with this tom foolery at all. loss/wQw4hvL/">
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Pflugerville, TX (05/12/05)
Member Since: 02/07/05[Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 6:56 am
I think you have a great game plan! Now, in a few years I will be calling you and saying what was that we discussed way back when, LOL....I need some help. I do think you will get this solved and are on the right track and I know your son will really be thankful for this. 300/278/170
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 Cleveland, OH Member Since: 07/06/06 [Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 6:48 am
Good Morning.. I am going to get some strange looks with this one.. but I'm gonna say it anyway. You said in your post that you pray.. so I am guessing you go to church. If you do, see if they work in part with a soup kitchen or homeless shelter. Volunteer him to work there. (Disclaimer: I am not saying all homeless people didn't graduate, or that if you don't graduate you will end up homeless) It is a very Montel Williams thing to do.. but it might work. Has your husband told your son he didn't like school? Amanda 315 / 279 / 168 / 130 5'1" 28 years old. |
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 bayonne, NJ Member Since: 01/03/06 [Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 6:56 am
It possibly sound like this has been a life problem with your child. I am a Chem teacher for 11th and 12th graders and the mom of an 11 year old. I have taught the cream of the crop for 22 years...I have also taught the bottom of the barrell as some would catarogize those children. My daughter works her butt off for every 80 she gets. In math we high five when she passes a test. She goes to tutoring every morning and has a private tutor 2 times a week. She often feels like the other kids think she is not as bright as they are but here is her advantage. Because I know she struggles with school work, we were fortunte enough to find something she is great at and we emphasize that in her life. She is a competitive figure skater and trains every day. I see you mentioned that he is great in sports. If that is his strength, then work with that. Dont take that away from him...as that is taking away his self esteem. Perhaps he is overwhelmed with the work at which point I would speak to his teachers. When teachers sy, Yes he can get a 100 in my class if he only applied himself, I have to wonder if that teacher is a parent, or if that teacher is capable of knowing a specific childs limitations. That is a statement I would never say to a parent. One teacher told me my dughter was notg working hard enough and could do better. Once I told him her tutoring schedule just to keep up with his class he shut up./ Teachers want everyone to conform to their rules. Maybe he needs to conform to his own for a bit and make his own mistakes. Give him room to make his own mistakes. Perhaps he is in need of a tutor, but allow him to succeed at something...the sports. I am sure he is set up to become a successful adult with a loving family in place. Sometimes overachievers are not successful adults...Remember this old sayin..."early ripe...early rot"  |
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 Trenton, OH Member Since: 10/27/06 [Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 7:36 am
i raised 3 daughters and I'm helping with a 13 year old right now. I totally agree with you. The have to make there own mistakes. I have finally convience my granddaughter that she can get b"s just by doing the home work. She has not had a grade lower than a c+ since she's discovered this. She can totally bomb a test as she's jsut not a good test taker, but if all the homework is turned in and accurate she's not coming home with a D or F. |
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Hawthorne, NJ Member Since: 08/24/06 [Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 3:48 pm
Minnie, Thanks you had great advise. I have to tell you I never heard that saying "early ripe, early rot". We own a garden center so that one really hits home! Point taken about expecting him to achieve as his friends have. loss/wQw4hvL/">
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North Shore Area, MA Member Since: 08/30/06 [Latest Posts] |
Post Date: 2/5/07 7:04 am
Well if you already tried reverse psychology by forbidding him to do homework you might have to try this. First a little back story, I was a slacker in high school. I have an IQ of 158 and my ImageDec 19, 2006
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