JAMES1244
I AM A HUSBAND AS WELL AS A FATHER OF 3 AND MY WIFE IS CONSIDERING HAVING WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY. RIGHT NOW SHE IS IN BETWEEN LAPBAND & RNY/BYPASS. MY PREFERENCE IF ANY WOULD BE THE LAPBAND. MY WIFE IN MY EYES IS NOT HEAVY ENOUGH FOR THE RNY. MY WIFE PREFERS THE RNY BUT ME PERSONALLY, I FEEL IT IS A VERY DANGEROUS PROCEDURE. I KNOW THAT ALL SURGERIES HAVE RISKS BUT LAPBAND IS REVERISBLE. ONCE THE RNY IS DONE, THERE IS NO TURNING BACK. MY WIFE SAYS THAT I AM JUST LOOKING AT THE NEGATIVE SIDE OF THE RNY BUT I JUST WANT HER TO KNOW THAT THERE IS A NEGATIVE SIDE TO IT ALSO AND NOT JUST POSITIVE. I WANT HER TO UNDERSTAND THAT THERE IS ALSO A NEGATIVE SIDE TO ANY PROCEDURE. SOME NOT AS BAD AS OTHERS. I JUST WANT WHAT IS BEST AND SAFEST FOR MY WIFE. SHE DOES NOT HAVE ANY HEALTH PROBLEMS BESIDES DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY. SHE FEELS BECAUSE HER BMI IS 48-49 THAT SHE NEEDS THE WLS. MYSELF AS WELL AS HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS TELL HER ALL THE TIME THAT SHE DOES NOT APPEAR TO BE WHAT THE SCALES SAY. I JUST DON'T WANT TO LOOSE MY WIFE. I AM TERRIFIED OF HER NOT LIKING THE PROCEDURE ONCE IT IS DONE AND THERE IS NO TURNING BACK BUT WITH THE LAPBAND IT CAN BE REVERSED. AM I WRONG FOR BEING CONCERNED ABOUT MY WIFE?
