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I have long blonde hair and big blue eyes
But all you see are my big fat thighs

I have creamy skin and pouty lips
But all you see are my wide round hips

I have straight white teeth and a big warm grin
But all you see is my double chin.

My contagious laugh spreads like wildfire
But all you see is my huge spare tire.

I’m educated I’ve read lots of books
But all you care about is looks

I’m good at my job, I work very hard
But all you see is a tub of lard

You assume that I am weak and lazy
I’m not; I’m fun, adventurous and sometimes crazy

I wish you could look past the fat and see
I love my life and I love me

If you don’t want to take me out
Then fuck you all –you’re missing out

                            

Joy does not demand anything of you, and it gives you so very much. Allow it now, and let it pull you forward.
Joy does not ask you to be naive or unreasonable or to ignore the reality around you. It simply offers to shine a positive, empowering light on that reality.
Joy does not take anything from you, and requires no special conditions or obligations. Let joy flow out from you, and see how it lifts everything it touches.
Joy is a gift that keeps on giving. Welcome it with open arms and a grateful heart.
Joy opens your eyes to a whole new world of possibilities. Joy connects you to people, places, things and situations that can bring to life great value.
Joy is yours when you choose it. Choose to let joy flavor this day, and experience the positive power of joy in every moment.
-- Ralph Marston

                             
 

“Most of the fat people I knew were quiet, wore clothes that didn't fit them, and had no friends. Their names weren't Lisa or Joe or Mary. They went by Shamu or Willy or whatever diet company was popular at the time. From every direction-home, doctors, peers, teachers, and the media-these kids were getting the message that they were not decent people. They were disrespected and unsupported, and as a result felt like unworthy people. They were seen solely as fat kids: not smart kids, not creative kids, and not athletic kids.”

“It's not like I haven't nailed a fat girl before. This is America and I'm a heavy drinker”

“We all know that drugs, alcohol, tobacco, and addictions are harmful. Calories are harmful in the same way. If you eat extra calories, you are for sure killing yourself in the same way that any harmful substance kills.”

“Dear Fat Disgusting Pig,
If you weigh 75 pounds and you look in the mirror and see "fat", you're probably really seeing bones and muscle tissue. To get rid of the muscle tissue, simply drink less water. To get rid of knob-like bones and protrusions, avoid calcium and phosphorous.
Good luck with your diet!”

“If a fat person does have a sex life, or a good romantic life, people tend to think of it as the exception to the rule, a fluke & and they certainly don't want to know about it. The thought of those blubbery bodies engaged in amorous activity, some people seem to think, is almost enough to have any normal, thin person reaching for an air sickness bag. After all, as everybody knows, fat is disgusting, and fat people are never, ever beautiful or desirable...”

“How do you feel fat women are represented in the media? We are represented as being ugly, dirty, and unable to control our eating. You almost never see positive representations of fat women on tv. If a woman is fat, she has to be: sloppy, ugly, funny--but only self-deprecating funny, asexual, confined to her home or office, sitting in front of the tv eating bon bons, on a diet, on an exercise binge, sick because she's got high blood pressure because she's fat, wishing and hoping for Mr. Right to love her in spite of her "weight problem". As undesirable and unnecessary members of society. As laughing stock, as being out-of-control. Almost always in negative terms. They are all on, or should be on, diets. As pathetic, helpless slobs. Tragic, ugly, lazy characters w/no self-control, or the butt of other people's jokes. In advertising, usually, the "before" pictures. Or invisible. Very poorly, if at all. Usually they're portrayed as sick, lazy and slobs. Usually as feckless persona-non-gratas or women like Roseanne who want to emasculate males. Sexless, mediocre intelligence.”

“The audacity of these people!! They think that they are good enough to eat at our lunch table. It's bad enough we have to share the school with them; and asking us to subject ourselves to seeing them while we eat is going a little too far. I can't understand why they won't build a seperate school to educate these disgusting people. I very strongly feel a seperate school would benefit us "decent people" greatly by giving us an environment more condusive to learning....and eating.”

quoted from Mariah Carey:
”Whenever I watch TV and see those poor starving kids all over the world, I can't help but cry. I mean, I'd love to be skinny like that, but not with all those flies and death and stuff.”

Tiggemann and Rothblum found that although college students rate the obese as warm and friendly, they also rate them as unhappy, lacking in self-confidence, self-indulgent, undisciplined, lazy and unattractive compared to the non-obese. In a similar study, Harris, Harris and Bochner (1982) found that the obese were described as less active, less intelligent, less hardworking, less attractive, less popular, less successful, less athletic and less appropriately sex-typed than the non-obese.

Medical students, too, rate the moderately obese as more ugly, awkward, sad, weak, unsuccessful, difficult to manage and lacking in self-control than they did the non-obese (Blumberg & Mellis, 1985). They rate the morbidly obese even more negatively, calling them more worthless, bad, unpleasant and awful than the non-obese (Blumberg & Mellis, 1985).

'Twas the night before bypass', when all through my gut
not a morsel was stirring, not even a nut.
The suitcase was packed by the back door with care,
in hopes that a new me would soon return there.
I lay nestled, snug in my bed
while visions of calories danced in my head;
and me in my plus size pajamas and wrap,
had just settled in for a long, restless nap.
When deep in my mind there arose such a clatter,
I sprang from my dreams to see what was the matter.
Away to my fridge I flew like a flash,
ripped open the door and drooled at the stash.
The moonlight reflecting off the beautiful snacks
gave a luster of radiance to all on the racks.
When, what to my wondering eyes should appear,
but an array of the comfort foods I hold so dear.
With a familiar feeling of all those I'd pick,
I thought in a moment I just might be sick.
More lovely than angels their voices they came,
and they whistled and shouted and called me by name;
"Now pizza, now French fries, now chocolate galore
on cheesecake, on ice cream, on donuts and more!"
From the tip of my tongue, to the bottom of my toe,
I will miss you all more than ever you'll know.
As an addict that shakes and stirs as he sits,
I'll mourn the loss of my delectable hits.
So back to my bed I went with great haste,
and settled back down with nary a taste.
And then in an instant, in pre-op I sat,
nervously waiting to no longer be fat.
As I sat deep in thought and adjusted my gown,
in came my surgeon in one single bound.
He was dressed all in scrubs, from his head to his feet
and he seemed very calm as he eyed me like meat.
He looked at my chart, with his scope gave a listen;
I don't think he noticed my eyes starting to glisten.
He was chubby and plump -- he could lose some himself,
and I laughed when I saw him in spite of myself.
A wink of his eye and a twist of his head,
soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread.
He spoke barely a word as he prepped for his work;
he paused for a moment, and then turned with a jerk.
And laying a finger aside of his face,
and giving a nod, out of the room he did race.
He checked in the next day, to his students gave a whistle,
and away they all flew like a down of a thistle.
But I heard him exclaim as he walked out of sight,
"speedy thinness to you and a healthier life!"

- From an Unknown Author:
 
                                       
         

Source:  UPI

NEW HAVEN, Conn. (UPI) -- Nearly half of the people responding to an online survey about obesity said they would rather give up a year of
their life than be fat, says a U.S. study.

The study by the Rudd Center for Food Policy and Obesity at Yale University found the some 4,000 respondents also said they would rather walk away from their marriage, give up the possibility of having children, be depressed or become alcoholic rather than be obese.

Five percent said they'd rather lose a limb than get fat, while 4 percent said they'd rather be blind than be overweight.

"We were surprised by the sheer number of people who reported they would be willing to make major sacrifices to avoid being obese," said lead author Marlene Schwartz, associate director of the Rudd Center.  "It drives home the message that weight bias is powerful and pervasive."

                                   

LISTEN to the embarrassment we encounter in our every day life. The name-calling, stares, rude comments and looks of disgust we endure battling the last acceptable form of discrimination. People we meet that give us a far wider berth than we need when passing us on the street, in the hall...in life. Afraid that somehow our disease of obesity might be contagious.

LISTEN to our apprehension as we expertly eye the chair. Will we break it, or will we fit. Will we ever fit into life, as "normal" people know it?

LISTEN to our agony as we just walk and perform the simple activities of daily living on joints screaming in pain from incredible burden they were never meant to carry.

LISTEN to the pain of our humiliation when ridiculed by a doctor for "allowing" ourselves to get so fat. Realizing even the doctor's office is not a "safe" place; we tend to neglect our heath even more. Hey doctor, didn't you take an oath to help?

LISTEN to our hopelessness after being turned down over and over for a job or promotion because we don't "match the corporate image" of the person they envision for this position.

LISTEN to our guilt. Because of our size, we feel we've cheated those we love out of the parent, spouse, child or friend we feel we should've been. Our embarrassment has now become theirs as well.

LISTEN to our anticipation as we eagerly embark on yet another diet. THIS will be the one. This time I WILL SUCEED!

LISTEN to our frustration as once again we fail at another attempt to lose weight, reinforcing once again our feelings of worthlessness, failure and defeat.

LISTEN to our fear for what life holds if we don't have this surgery. We try to ignore it, to stuff it down, but when we are brutally honest with ourselves, we realize an early death is an almost certainty.

LISTEN to our indecision as we do extensive research, trying to outweigh the risk of complications (up to and including death) versus the chance of a new life. A chance to improve our health, move without pain, play with our children, the opportunity to just "fit in" to society.

LISTEN to our indecision as we second-guess our decision to have surgery. As we ask ourselves, "Should I try just one more diet?"...And tell ourselves, "If I only had more willpower."

LISTEN to us as we eagerly meet with the surgeon, with our five-page, single-spaced, list of questions in hand. Let down by the medical profession in the past, can I really trust this person who looks at me with compassion, as he assures me I'm a "good candidate" and he can help? Please God, I want to believe him, tell me I'm not setting myself up for failure once again.

LISTEN to our feelings of helplessness as we place our future in the hands of an insurance company. Fully aware that with a simple denial letter, all the work we have done to this point, may be pointless.
This surgery is not without cost, physical, emotional and monetary.

LISTEN to our joy as we open the long awaited "approval letter" or obtain financing to make this dream a reality.

LISTEN to us as we grasp for a chance at improved health, of moving with ease and just living life as a "normal" person.

LISTEN to our renewed hope of living long enough to see our children grow up, get married, play with grandchildren and grow old alongside our mate.

LISTEN to our fear as we roll into the surgical suite. The sights, the smells, the needles, the faceless people behind the masks. Do you care? Do you understand, or will you too make cracks about my weight once I'm asleep? My life is now in your hands, please take care of me. I have a brand new life ahead of me, and so much to live for.

LISTEN to the sigh of relief as we wake up in pain...but alive! Stand up, walk a few steps, cough and deep breathe. Sure nurse, whatever you say, I can handle it...because I'm alive!

LISTEN to our delight as the weight starts to drop off, realizing this is for real. We are actually on the loosing side.

LISTEN our misery as the body we once knew so well, now betrays us with nausea and vomiting when we attempt to eat.

LISTEN to our frustration as we attempt to do something as simple as drinking a glass of water.

LISTEN to our panic at the first plateau or weight gain. As that little voice inside tells us, "Once again I'm a failure."

LISTEN to us relax and let out our breath as we watch the numbers on the scale edge down once again. Plateau over. Renewed hope. Maybe I will make it after all.

LISTEN to our efforts to move as we slowly and painfully attempt to exercise in a body that is still morbidly obese.

LISTEN to our confusion as our emotions wreck havoc with us. Why am I crying? Why do I feel depressed? Why am I mean and snapping at the ones I love? I don't like this person that has taken over my emotions.

LISTEN to our sense of accomplishment the first time we walk a mile. It rivals the high of any runner completing their first marathon.

LISTEN to our depression when we realize we can no longer soothe our emotions with food. We now have to learn to feel and deal with these emotions.

LISTEN to our tears as we mourn the loss of that brief but satisfying sensation of gratification we once obtained from the "comfort foods" we can no longer have.

LISTEN to our obsession surrounding the scale, vitamins, protein drinks and carb counts, determined not to fail "this time".

LISTEN to our sense of accomplishment as we pass up that calorie laden, high carbohydrate treat, telling ourselves, "My new life is sweeter than any dessert."

LISTEN to our elation as we reach that "century mark" that once seemed so distant, but now is a reality.

LISTEN to our resolve to reach our goals. Moving the weight on the scale down another notch, reaching a new "century" of numbers, wearing the dream outfit and attaining our "goal" weight.

LISTEN to the gratefulness in our hearts as we thank our surgeon for not only their technical skills, but equally important, their understanding and compassion for the morbidly obese. Thank you doctor for the opportunity to rejoin society and live life.

LISTEN to our amazement as we come to the realization that "reaching goal" wasn't the most important thing in life. It was the lessons we learned, the friends we made and the sense of accomplishment we gained along the way.

LISTEN, don't talk, don't give advice, don't judge, just listen.

And then, maybe then, you will start to understand the life of a morbidly obese person. 

                                              

Did you know ... If shop mannequins were real women, they'd be too thin to menstruate?

There are 3 billion women who don't look like super models and only eight who do.

Marilyn Monroe wore a size 14.

If Barbie were a real woman, she'd have to walk on all fours due to her proportions.

The average American woman weighs 144 lbs. and wears between a size 12 and 14. (Who needs the disgusting 0 sizes, yuck!!)

One out of every four college aged women has an eating disorder.

The models in the magazines are airbrushed ... even if you think it looks perfect, it ISN'T REAL!

A psychological study in 1995 found that three minutes spent looking at models in a fashion magazine caused 70% of the women tested to feel depressed, guilty, and shameful. (Truly saddening ... this must be changed RIGHT NOW!)

Models twenty years ago weighed 8% less than the average woman; today they weigh 23% less.

The Stomach: 75% of the stomach is removed along the greater curvature. The remaining portion of the stomach is sleeve-like and is closed off with surgical staples.

The Intestines:  The duodenum is divided near the pyloric valve, and the small intestine divided as well. The portion of the small intestine connected to large intestine is attached to the short duodenal segment next to the stomach. The remaining segment of the duodenum connected to the pancreas and gallbladder is attached to this limb closer to the large intestine. Where contents from these two segments mix is called the common channel, which dumps into the large intestine.

                               BPS/DS: How It Works 
            ***The BPD/DS combines restrictive and malabsorptive elements to achieve and maintain the best reported long-term percentage of excess weight loss among modern weight-loss surgery procedures.***

The Restrictive Component
The BPD/DS procedure includes a partial gastrectomy, which reduces the stomach along the greater curvature, effectively restricting its capacity while maintaining its normal functionality.

In addition, unlike the unmodified BPD and RNY procedures, the DS procedure keeps a portion of the duodenum in the food stream. The preservation of the pylorus/duodenum pathway means that food is digested normally (to an optimally absorbable consistency) in the stomach before being excreted by the pylorus into the small intestine. As a result, the DS procedure enables more-normal absorption of many nutrients (including protein, calcium, iron and vitamin B12) than is seen after other gastric bypass procedures.

The Malabsorptive Component
The malabsorptive component of the BPD/DS procedure rearranges the small intestine to separate the flow of food from the flow of bile and pancreatic juices. This inhibits the absorption of calories and some nutrients. Further down the digestive tract, these divided intestinal paths are rejoined; food and digestive juices begin to mix, and limited fat absorption occurs in the common tract as the food continues on its path toward the large intestine. 

                      

History: 
The standalone Duodenal Switch procedure (without the accompanying gastric bypass as used in weight-loss surgery) was originally devised by Tom R. DeMeester, M.D. to treat bile gastritis, a condition in which the stomach and esophagus are burned by bile. In 1988, Dr. Douglas Hess of Bowling Green, Ohio, was the first surgeon to combine the DS with the Biliopancreatic Diversion (BPD) form of obesity surgery. This hybrid procedure, known as the Biliopancreatic Diversion with Duodenal Switch (or the Distal Gastric Bypass with Duodenal Switch), solves many nutritional problems associated with other forms of WLS, and allows a magnificent eating quality when compared to other WLS procedures.

 Why The BPD/DS? 
You can lose more of the excess body weight (85-95 %).

· your chances of gaining weight are less after duodenal switch than following any other bariatric surgery. 

· Side effects short and long term are low and are easy to manage. 

· Due to the malabsorption component, the duodenal switch procedure is the most effective surgery to cure diabetes, hypercholesterolemia, hypertriglyceridemia.

· Portions of the meals following surgery are relatively normal.

No other medical condition has been more misrepresented, misunderstood, and maltreated as much as obesity.  Current scientific information tells us that obesity is mainly a hereditary disease, passed down through the genes.  The exact method of transmission is not known, and the expression of obesity varies with social, environmental, cultural, economic and psychological influences.  The adverse effects of obesity on health and longevity are many, and include (but are not limited to), hypercholesterolemia, diabetes mellitus, an excess mortality from many cancers, hypertension, gallbladder disease, gastrointestinal disorders, menstrual irregularities, fertility problems, degenerative arthritis, coronary artery disease, and arterial sclerotic disease.  Obesity is seldom the result of a glandular or hormonal problem, an eating disorder, a lack of willpower, or a psychological disorder. 

Morbid obesity is defined as being above 75 pounds over ideal weight, but to be considered for surgery one must weigh 100 pounds or more over their ideal weight, and/or have one or more of the co-morbidities (associated diseases) listed above. There are degrees of obesity, of course, and there are certain terms used to describe the severity of obesity such as “super obese” (>225% overweight) and “mildly obese” (20-50 pounds overweight).