Mia E.
No more feeling trapped...now I am just living a day at a time
Sep 07, 2009
Friends often say that people who live in Hawaii aren't allowed to complain about anything, it is paradise after all and yes, I have to admit we islanders have it better than most. Beautiful beaches, near perfect weather, amazing things to do everywhere you turn and of course ALOHA abounds. I do love it here, that is for sure and find myself filled with gratitude each day I wake up and look out the window to take in the sights of the sun rising over the mountain that graces the view from my window and front porch.For years I have done what most of us have done, tried and failed at losing weight. Trying and failing, trying and failing. So, for a few years I quit trying. I threw out my scale several years back and just decided it did not matter. I was going to be what I was going to be and so I quit measuring, quit trying and basically just accepted that I am a fat girl. That plan didn't work out so well. The weight went on slowly maybe a 1/2 pound a month or so, until after a decade plus of marriage I was 100 pounds more than my wedding day weight and there was no relief in site. It didn't matter what I tried, nothing would take off more than 15-20 pounds and nothing could keep me focused. I was too busy, too stressed and too fat and I LOVE sweets.
I was feeling terrible about myself, trapped in a body I hated. I couldn't do the things physically that I really wanted to do, found it hard to be in social situations where I knew I would see someone that I hadn't seen in a while and felt like I was trapped inside a body that wouldn't cooperate. I mean, I looked in the mirror and saw my "grandmother's butt", my fat face didn't look at all like the pretty girl brown eye'd teenage I have pictures of in my albums, and my middle section looked like I was in my eighth month of a 5 year pregnancy. God forbid someone wanted to take pictures of some special event or just us out having fun somewhere. Anyone out there relating to this ?
So earlier this year, I came across a recent photo of some distant relatives on my moms side of the family. I have not seen them in about 15 years and time had not been a friend to them either. They were all huge. Aunties, uncles, cousins.....all pushing 300 lbs! The photo shocked me, I mean last time I saw these folks from my gene pool they were chubby yes, but my goodness they were all so big and uncomfortable looking! I could see the pain and misery in their eyes, could relate to the embarrasment of having to pose for a picture when you feel so bad about yourself.
I realized at that moment, that if I didn't find the courage to do something NOW, it would only be a few more years before I would be also joining the 300 club too ......and then what? How does someone even begin to loose that kind of weight? Once I get that old, how would I find the energy to run/walk/exercise? How could I possibly change my families habits so they aren't begging me to make my famous dessert or dinners that are loaded with love, fat and carbs? How do I stop "eating" ......or eating things I LOVE? eating for fun? eating for comfort? eating for eating?
So, I did what many are doing now which means I turned to weight loss surgery. After reading, asking, consulting professionals and the internet, I opted for the R & Y, mainly because my doctor told me that I would need something that would ensure I couldn't eat high amounts of fat and sugar. Apparently the R & Y proceedure leaves you feeling sick if you eat bad things and so since I was getting "real" with myself about my problem, I decided to make the commitment with the back up assurance that if I forsook my goals, my body would help me out by reminding me that I couldn't eat/live that way any more.
I had my surgery in July and so far it has been ok. I say ok because I am getting through each phase, just a day at a time. I have made some good progress, lost 25 or so but the emotional things, the heart of the matter is what is difficult I think. Quitting anything you have come to rely on is hard.....drugs, booze, sex, love....food, whatever it is that gets you through is very hard to move on without. I wish the weight was coming off faster. I am supposed to be close to 200 pounds by the time I see my doctor again in October, and at the rate I have been losing that doesn't look probable, although I have been loosing 2-3 lbs a week.
The pills and vitamins are a pain in the $#%&. The ones you can swallow are ok, but I despise the Flinstones chewable's and the calcium horse pill that I have to take twice a day. I am not very hungry and food has kind of lost it's appeal, which is a good thing in one way, but that makes it hard to be motivated to eat. WLS patients are supposed to eat at least 70 grams of protein a day and that is tough to do. Sometimes I do feel those old feelings of wanting to eat "socially" or when I may need some comfort so to speak, but there isn't much that is comfortable about those situations at this point. I miss my coffee, beer and chocolate.
Anyway, I am here and doing ok. If I can be a support to someone else, please write. If I can provide my humble opinion or offer advice, I will but just know it is only from my perspective.
Wishing Aloha to all my sisters out there who are struggling too and hoping that you too can find a solution even if it just means you work at it one day at a time.
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28.2
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07/21/2009
Surgery Date
Jul 26, 2009
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