keishagreene
The way things go...
May 31, 2009
May 31, 2009 - Unbeknown to me, I married a man who is more concerned about my PHYSICAL appearance than any thing else in my life. Long story short, in the two plus years since I've had the gastric bypass, I have gained back approx. 20 pounds. I currently weight 190. We have just spent the majority if the morning in "negotiation" about the fact that I have changed. He is stating that he does not wish to remain in a relationship with me if I am going to fail to maintain my weight.... In his opinion "physical appearance" is the most important thing to a man. He is stating that if I am not going to improve my physical appearance than I am causing our relationship to fail....My answer to this: Kiss my (well use your imagination). Today is no different from when I was a plus size princess. I have never lived by any one elses rules. I am happy, healthy and healed.... I do not need a MAN not even this man in my life to try to cause me to have self esteem issues.... I have run into someone who has self esteem issues and I am about to run like hell to ensure that he does NO MORE HARM...
Am I crazy for wanting to be comfortable for who I am? Does he have a valid point? There is no such thing as for better or worse? Trust me even the worst is better.... I am 38 years old... A mother... I do not wish to look like a porn star. I am a sophisticated lady, not a tramp... (I say this because this husband is disappointed that I did not take on this type of appearance - he wanted breast enhanchments - for me to dress like a pro when we are in public etc...) O.K. this is how it goes, maybe during pillow talk I would say wow, I wouldn't mind "firming-up" my breast - this did not mean make me an appointment (mind you since it is not a coverable insurance expense - we cannot afford it)...Now I am being accused of not keeping promises because I stated that I wanted a "hot - phine as hell body"....
I am angry BUT not at him, more so at myself... I should have known that he stated around for the wrong reason... I do not need him and for my mental stability, I will do the right thing to turn this situation around. As I type this he is upstairs... because we have been together for close to seven years - I know him. I would expect for him to move out or be gone completely by the time I return from the store and the other errands that I have to run..., We have been down this road before, and I have tried to make it work... this time I refuse to keep changing... You cannot change others that's why as I said. I am HAPPY with who I am...
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About Me
Clermont, FL
Location
43.7
BMI
Surgery
10/17/2006
Surgery Date
May 10, 2005
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