Melyssa S.
Fatfreemama message so good I needed it for myself
Aug 28, 2012
Sometimes we go through a period of mourning as we say goodbye to our old selves. I could be wrong, but maybe you are grieving the person you are and a little afraid to embrace the person you are becoming. You've gone through a lot of change in a very short time and you are no longer the person you were, but are becoming the person you always dreamed of being. I know it's very scary. Some of us were heavy our whole lives and don't know what it is like to be healthy.
Make lists of why you are doing this. Write down all the things you couldn't do before and all the things you can do now and want to do in the future. Look at how much fun you are having being a part of your kids' lives instead of just on the sideline watching, like I did for so many years. As you embrace your new life, the old will fade and the sadness will pass. But always remember who you were because that person was strong enough to help you get to where you are today. He is still very much a part of you and always will be, but don't belittle the grieving process. Sometimes you have to say goodbye in order to move on.
Good luck.
This too shall pass.
Jan
Goals
Aug 23, 2012
I think I could do the "3 days aweek at the gym goal" but I am too lazy to get out of the house. Next week as my favorite quote from Scarlett O'Hera would say "tomorrows another day". I know I am only hurting myself and doing myself a disfavor by not going. Eventually I will get motivated.
Lazy daisy Mel
Aug 21, 2012
Enough of that lets move on to something else. This past weekend my husband came in while I was sleeping and said, "what have you been teaching this puppy"? I said what do you mean? He said, "When I am going to the bathroom she jumps up on me, puts her arms around my neck and gives me hugs and kisses!" I laughed and said, Yeah she just started doing that a few days ago and I thought it was cute, so I don't discourage her. lol
This morning I weighed in at 194.9 I feel like that is so close to 195 that it shouldn't count :( Since my weight loss has slowed down to around 2 pounds a week I don't think I will have much of a scale victory for a few more days.
Just thankful it is still going down and my tool is working :)
I thank the Lord for his many blessing on me and my family.
This is a post by Cleopatra Nik - Awesome
Aug 21, 2012
Last Edit: 8/21/12 8:23 am
There are stages to this process and I understand that. Looking back on my own process I think a lot about what I wish I could tell new post-op Nikki from where I sit right now. And I have decided it is this.
You are you. You are you for a reason. You can’t and won’t be anybody else besides you. But guess what? You are awesome! There is nobody else like you and because of that you have unique and wonderful gifts to bring to the world.
Keeping all that in mind…STOP comparing yourself to everyone else. They are not you and you are not them.
STOP sweating the small stuff and live this life. Because all too soon you’ll find more years behind you than ahead.
STOP selling yourself short. You deserve all the love, happiness, good health, good vibes, happy memories and healthy relationships the universe has to offer but those rarely just knock on your door. More often you have to make positive changes within yourself to attract positive changes around you. Good energy draws more good energy to you. So STOP the negativity.
STOP limiting yourself. You can do whatever it is you put your mind to. You really can. Barring physical ailments, most of the time it’s mind over matter. So in reality YOU are the roadblock standing between you and any goal you have in life. So STOP doing that.
Lastly, STOP choosing unhappiness over happiness. Yep, that’s right “Newbie Nikki” happiness is a CHOICE. It’s rarely the easy choice. Life is stressful. The only thing that is constant is change. As soon as you get to one mile marker on the journey your brain thinks about how long it is until the next mile marker but guess what else? YOU get to choose to move about this journey with an attitude of abundance and the spirit of joy. Or you can move about this journey with an attitude of lamentation. It’s truly your CHOICE. While choosing happiness is by far the more difficult thing to do, it is so freeing. Let go of everything that makes you feel worthless and incomplete. It takes years, decades, lifetimes but as you drop each piece of negativity along your path you’ll find yourself lighter, stealthier, and moving at a faster pace toward where and WHO you want to be.
So that’s what the new me would tell the old me. And it’s also what I’d tell all of you. We focus so much on the food, the food, the food. Not to sound cliché but it truly isn’t about what we’re eating, but what’s eating us. When we get closer to being in touch with our emotional selves we start to find a bit of peace with the food aspect. Even a bit more peace with the weight aspect (although even the most centered person is capable of being knocked off kilter there too).
Bottom line: be good to yourself. You only get this one life and it’s a shame to waste a single moment of it needlessly torturing yourself. Motivating? Yes. Pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone and way past what you thought you could do? Absolutely! Torture? No, no, no…
The dreaded scale
Aug 16, 2012
August and the dog days of summer in south Florida
Aug 15, 2012
I have so many things to be thankful for but really don't take the time to think about them. I think I need to list them so I can visually see them from time to time.
I have a wonderful supporting husband
I have 4 great adult children who are all healthy
Townhome that is paid for
Husband who works hard everyday to support us
2 sweet loving dogs
I also have a best friend that not many people can say they have had since birth!
I still have my dad who will be 87 this year and I love him to pieces!
All our bills are paid and we don't have any debt.
We get to travel alot
A God that Loves me and thinks I am worth much more than I think myself
Well that is all I can think of.
Just a quick update on my WL - I dropped into Onederland a week ago!!! Today I am 197 with 57 more pounds to go till I reach my goal weight of 140. The dr told me last week I was doing great but that my weight loss will start to slow down :(
I am ok with that as long as I keep losing. Of course 2 pounds a week would be nice.
So I will sign off - till the next time I feel like doing this again