Sophikins
A little about me and my journey and some fears..
Feb 02, 2010
Last April (2009), I came back home for vacation.
I was living in NYC by myself for a little over a year, when I decided I wanted to go home for the holidays.
I came back thinking I would be back in NYC by the end of the summer.
But then, my dad asked what I thought about WLS. And all my plans changed.
I met with the surgeon, and he said I could do the surgery, and I did all the blood and lab tests. And 7 months (after the first meeting with the surgeon in July), I was post op.
They only decided to do the sleeve a few weeks before the surgery. And I only found out about my date, 3 days before the surgery.
Everything is different in Israel.
You don't need to write letters to insrurance companies. All you have to do is have the right BMI. I had a 42 BMI pre op.
I didn't tell anyone. I told my immediate family and my closest friends. My parents really don;t understand why I don;t want anyone knowing. And I'm sure ppl suspect something. Not what I had done, but that I had something done. And it will only be a matter of time till they put 2 and 2 together. I really don't want my fathers side of the family knowing. I have zero energy for their reactions. And I HATE my aunt, and don;t want to have to deal with my grandmother always commenting on what I'm not eating. We go there every Friday night. It's a family tradition, and each week, she makes sure to make something that every one will eat. My brother and I are the pickiest, and she makes sure there are shnitzel and potatoes for us. But she makes enough for an army, and gets upset when we don't finish it all. And, now when I go, I won't eat anything she makes (it's always drenched in oil, though she swears, she only puts in a drop), and she will get upset. But if I tell her she definatley won't understand. She comes from a different culture. Did you see My Big Fat Greek Wedding? Do you remember when the finace said he was vegetarian, and the Aunt said she would make lamb instead? Well it's kind of like that for me with my dad's side of the family.
I guess my biggest concer at the moment is how to deal with eating in front of the people I didn't tell. I also didn't tell anyone at work. Most don't know I was out "sick" and the ones who do know, don't know what I had done. But how will I handle lunch with them. We all sit otgether at the same table and eat what we bring from home.. If at the beginning, they don't notice what I eat, they will after a while. So many things to be figured out..
