Help needed-not sure of feelings

Next week is my granddaughters birthday and I love,love,love birthday cake. I feel sad about not being able to eat some cake as it is tradition. I think I am blowing this out of proportion but then the tears well up. I think I feel cheated. What is going on with me? I know this is my decision but I feel so confused. I don't want to dump at my granddaughters' party so even one bite is out of the question.

I have found that the pillsbury sugar free cake mixes are delicious. I try to make sure there is one on hand for friends and family that can't have sugar.

I'm like you the thought of dumping terrifies me!

I don't see a problem with having a small bite. For birthday parties I have 1 very small bite of cake, no frosting. I am a dumper and I don't dump off of a small piece of cake.

I had a bite of wedding cake at a month out, because of the same reason. I've avoided things like that since, but today, when I was in a horrid mood and frustrated with teenage daughter, I ate a small blueberry muffin. I started to beat myself up, but decided to call it a mistake and move on with my day. I say "go for the cake." You can choose whether to have sugar free cake, or a small piece/bite of regular. I'd avoid the frosting, but that's just my opinion. Enjoy your grandchildren!

Thank you for the reply. I was thinking I couldn't have the cake, but that's not true. I am choosing to take care of myself. I could go ahead if I really wanted it but I choose not to. I'm taking care of myself and I don't need to feel bad about that. Thank you all for your time.

By the way-----I had 4 teenage daughters and I am now gray. I love them but I despised the teen years. They are now all over 30 and turned out great.

I was 24 when I had my surgery, 26 now. I had a hard time with this- seeing all the party foods that I "can't" have. But I was at a kids birthday party feeling sorry for myself not because I wanted it but because I felt like I HAD to eat the cake for tradition sake. Then I looked around and I don't mean to be judgmental whatsoever- this is just what I saw- there were a handful of the thin and healthy adults not eating cake just because they didn't want it. They didn't need it, didn't want ti- therefore didn't eat it and no one bothered them about it. So now I have a much easier time with turning down food. I dont need it, and I dont need to eat something just because someone else wants me to. It's my body. And most of the time no one really cares- you are the one over thinking it. So good luck!! :)

This good to remember. I tend to not see the thin, healthy people not eating cake (which is my #1 craving, trigger, and downfall) but they are living proof that cake is entirely optional!