OT: Dating...

It's Friday afternoon, and I'm the lone person left in the office so I'm sitting here contemplating someone I work with....he is the attorney in the office in which we share space with....sublease it from him so to speak.   Just on a whim.....I don't know that he would ever make the move and I certainly wouldn't.....the girl I work with teases me about him all the time but she says he's interested too....very straight and narrow, type A personality type guy.  

Just wondering what you would do or say, if anything....not that i will...but it's interesting that guys are noticing....it will surely be interesting when I get to where I want to be.  Our paths crossed in my former work like...he did some work for the bank I worked for and I was the admin asst to his banker.....totally different time, he was married and I was, well....huge.  I don't even think he realizes he knows me from a few years ago.  

So, has anyone had this happen and what did you do or would you do?   

Like I said, I say all this with tongue and cheek cause I'm interested but not enough to make the first move.  And I'm bored...LOL  Just making conversation :) 

:) Sherry 

I always find that "hello" works really well !

Seriously, why not re-introduce yourself - if it went any further he'd have to know who you are/were, so why not use that as an intro?   You could then ask if he fancied a drink one night to catch up?   You would definitely be able to tell then if he were interested or not!

Don't let life pass you by - go hook that fish!!!!!   Not making the first move is ok when you are 15, but grown men actually like a woman who makes the first move.   I've never regretted asking my gorgeous boyfriend out 

Thanks Kim! I was hoping you'd respond....I looked for the dating link but didn't see it plus I knew more folks here would hit it than over there!!  

You're right...and I have occasion to ask him a few law questions as I handle the bankruptcy process for the company I work for as a creditor.  Fun Stuff....so he's been all over it.   Attorneys like to hear themselves talk sometimes! LOL 

Plus, I think he's new to the dating scene...though he's been divorced a couple years.  The collector in the office talks with him and she is the one who teases me about him.  All in fun but yeah i think he's a cutie!   

Thanks a mil!  I'll keep you posted! 

Sherry

Good for you!

 If you need advice/opinions on ANYTHING to do with dating, let me know!   I dated for about 3 years before I met my boyfriend, so I have definitely BTDT - the good, bad and the very very ugly (dates, not men!)   I love the whole thing about dating after WLS and for those of us who have not been "out there" for many years or are women of a certain age  ...   

Here's the link for the singles board - ask questions there and they will get answered - there are still a few of us that check there regularly!

http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/wls_singles/

Well if you don't make the first move than it most likely won't happen.  You don't need to be super forward  either. Are you friends with him ?  Perhaps bring him something from the garden , " HI, I have a lot of tomatoes and wanted to share them with you." Or do some baking, give him something saying you made so much over the weekend and .  Or ask him to coffee.  Just bump into him and say something like " I was thinking about getting a coffee, want to come ?  "  If I hadn't asked my husband  out, we wouldn't be married and we wouldn't have these beautiful children. It's not the 50's anymore. It's OK to ask a man out. Don't be shy. get out there or you'll be dreaming and one day he's going to be taken!   

Yeah it's the whole shy thing....hate it sometimes!  You're right....I won't never know unless I ask!!  

Exactly.  You deserve it !  You are a beautiful woman, he might think you're not interested !   Drop a hint ( or better yet have a friend do it for you, haha , pass him a not like in the 3rd grade. Do you like me check Yes or NO . hehe  ( kidding of course , about the note !)

Thought about putting my cell phone number on his desk....LOL but no, I should ask...and yes she'd be all over it...if I told her it'd be okay to let him know.  She keeps telling me she can set me up on a blind date....she's older and she is having a good time with this but I laugh and joke too...gets us through a tedious day!    And thank you!!   :)  

Oooo...well, I imagine you will never lay on your death bed and say "wish I'd never said hello to that guy". But you might regret not trying!   Times are different now....it Dosent seem to matter who is the first to make a move...guy or gal.  I say you ask that guy out for a protien shake! ( protien first!.....) or a coffee....or something....  If for nothing else you can make a good friend!

LOL, love the protein first....but yes that would be a good opener and true, always need good friends...never hurts to have an attorney in your corner....for good reasons though! :) ha!