Nice...
What she said could pretty much be summed up with "that can't be safe. Yikes. hopefully it works well for you... and I just can't believe that any doctor is ok with removing 80% of a stomach..." We were texting she messaged me about the bachelorette and I went back and forth should I tell her, should I wait or just not tell her...
This is why I have chosen to only share my wls surgery journey with immediate family and one of my friends. I'm a little hurt and disappointed. I didn't know what else to say to her.
In the beginning I had a lot of people tell me not to do it and that it was a terrible idea. My answer was generally, "Watch me do it anyway!" Strangely a lot of people that told me it was a bad idea have told me I look great recently, which feels fantastic...
But if someone isn't supportive of what you're doing to better yourself and your life, then screw em'. Surround yourself with people that are supportive and encouraging. You are strong, and if you can do this, then you can do anything.
You did it for your health and other peoples opinions shouldnt matter.. you cuold try and inform her the benefits of the surgery and why you chose it, but at the end of the day shes gonna believe what she wants to believe, and you just need to knwo you have support from your immediate family (hopefully.. My family isnt very supportive.), and everyone here on OH. (:
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Having said that, sometimes I wonder if some peoples' reactions to WLS is nothing more than ignorance. Or not being informed. I'll use myself as an example. A little over a year ago I ran into a co-worker I hadn't seen in quite a while. I knew there was something different about her but couldn't put my finger on it. Turns out she'd had RNY a few months earlier and was looking fabulous. We ended up talking and she explained WLS to me. I was amazed at what I learned. Previously I'd thought WLS was dangerous. A last-ditch attempt to surgically alter someone who was dangerously obese. A type of surgery no one in their right mind would willingly submit to. The breadth and depth of my ignorance was astounding. After our nice chat I got on the computer and continued educating myself. I learned how wrong wrong wrong I had been. Not afraid to admit it.
Don't know, but maybe a lot of people we talk to share my old misconceptions. Maybe? Perhaps a chat rather than messaging could clear things u*****t.....
Don't worry about your friend's reaction. She'll get used to it. This time is about you, and how you need to be healthy and lose the weight, and be the best you can be. Good luck!
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On another note, she may just be scared that you will get thinner than her and she's feeling threatened...
I hope you and your friend work things things out. I am sure it was just shock! Especially since she could not see your facial expression and how happy you are. I remember when I first started thinking about wls I was like...really Laurie? isn't that dangerous? So I started reseaching and at first I was so freaked out when I read about gastric sleeve I never made it past the "remove 80% of your stomach" section. So I looked into Lapband. Had a consult...read up on it, went to another seminar where they discussed all wls procedures and it was there that I learned more about vsg. Sooo then it was make to research and this wonderful board to become educated. Guess what? I cancelled my "safe" Lapband and will now have VSG. So I guess my point is when you first find out or hear about wls...especially the" remove and rearrange" kind it does freak you out af first until you can become educated. I guess that is our mission now huh?
2. You shared a major medical decision over a text. Not a very good way for her to read you.
3. Since people usually don't know anything about this surgery, if you are going to tell them, you need to take the time to explain it to them. Probably not done over a text.
4. Some overweight people feel left behind. Some thin people feel "superior" and like you are cheating to get into their club. Both are often based on insecurity.
5. There has to be a reason why you hesitated telling her. I've been very selective. I had no hesitation about the few people that I told.
6. You are rightfully disappointed, but you shocked her over a text. The real test is how she reacts later. And maybe a real explanation from you is a good idea. A true blue friend will be happy for your weight loss. You'll know if she is.