any of you with a much thinner husband/boyfriend?
I have met a man who i am totally in love with..and he with me. We have not been intimate yet. I am really self conscious about my size compared to him. He is 5'11 and 145 lbs..and I am 5'5 and in a size 12. I felt great about my size when i was with my ex husband..because he is 220lbs..for some reason being smaller than my guy made me feel good..does that make sense? I know that he loves me for me..but I'm just hoping that I can get past the fact that i'm bigger than him..and feel comfortable. I keep thinking that thin men only want thin women...isn't that stupid?! Because obvisously he has chosen me..ughhh....
I was in a size 16/18 when I met my husband and he was 155 at 5'9. He has never been overweight, in fact he struggled with trying to gain most of his life. Needless to say it was super intimidating. I had always said my pant size would be smaller then my partner and it had been until then. I can say now after 10 years married and always being bigger then him (except about 4 months at my lowest lap-band weight when we were the same size) that it hasn't been an issue. He has always been attracted to me and loved me as I am. The only concern I would have is in finding a partner who truly understands and supports your decision you made to have WLS. I had to work for years to help my husband understand why I needed this for me and I only think he finally got it because he was living with me through it all when I decided. I dont think he would have quite understood if he met me after the fact.
Sleeve Revision from Lap-band November 23, 2012
Starting Weight: 236 Lowest Weight w/ Lap-Band: 160 Current Weight: 190
Goal Weight: 150...40lbs to go
I met my fiance' 5 1/2 years ago when I weighed over 500 pounds at 5'8". He is, and still is, 140 pounds and 5'11. He always has made me feel nothing but beautiful-clothes on or off. I have always only been with skinny men to be honest LOL I have found that there is a market out there for us bigger gals. Anyway, now as I lose weight my babe still treats me the same. He leaves the lights on, kisses my belly and looks me right in the eyes to tell me that I am beautiful. He has always done that-and hopefully every big girl can find a man like that-a man that finds you attractive no matter what.
My husband has always been about 160 lbs. When we met I was a little over 200 and by eight years later I was at 250. He's always loved and been attracted to me. If your guy loves you for who you are and is attracted to you your size won't matter. I think we women are much more critical of ourselves. Guys are simpler...they see boobs and they are happy. Good luck!
