Yippee I'm a statistic

Some of you may have been around a while some of you are obviously new.  I haven't been posting but I always check in.  I was two years post op on March 19th.  I started the journey at 270 lbs, weighed in at 235 on surgery day and currently weigh 137.  My goal weight of 130 was a little too low so I currently keep right around 135 never ever allowing 140!  

Well last week I became a statistic.  My husband of 10 years left me.  It was sudden and I was shocked as I thought/think of him as my best friend.  He says the surgery has nothing to do with it, but he did say he didn't find me attractive anymore! but somehow I was attractive when I weighed 270?!

I really don't know all the reasons and I'm still having a problem accepting this but if you'd asked me pre-op or heck even two months ago if I'd be this statistic, I would have said no way!  

I would NEVER not have this surgery, but do remember that getting it certainly does not solve life's problems, you just look sexier while handling them :)

I'm so sorry this happened!  I know how hard divorce can be.  :(  

I'm so glad you are able to deal with this at a healthy (sexy) weight. HUUGGSS!

Is that a statistic?  I didn't know

yes where the spouse having the surgery was obese/overweight before marriage the divorce rate is upwards of 80%.

Divorce after any weight loss surgery within the first two years is statistically much higher.  

I am so sorry that this happened to you.  I cannot imagine when it comes as a complete surprise and I certainly don't understand how he can give the reason that he is not attractive to you anymore.  If you love someone, you love someone. 

Thank you for checking in with us.  I remember you vividly and admired your dedication to fitness and acheiving your goals.  I wish you the best in your WL journey and your personal life.  You do look amazing!

Oh I remember you too!  I still workout 5 days a week though with a full time job, two kids and two horses (though with the divorce I have to sell them) I don't do any races.  Plus I moved to the south and there just isn't the running culture like in DC.

I'm sorry to hear about your hubby leaving. Only he knows how much of his decision was because of your weight loss, but I can say confidently that you look amazing, and from your post I get a general feeling that you'll be ok. It may be tough, but you will be.

I had a husband once who left me for someone else. This was well before my WLS, and I remember how much it hurt. It made me feel awful, worthless and disgusting. Now I'm married to a wonderful guy, and I have no worries at all that he'll be leaving after I lose weight. While anything is possible, we have a deep, emotionally satisfying relationship, and he supports my surgery and weight loss efforts completely.

Good luck, and my very best wishes to you!

I am sorry you are going through this.  I can't even imagine being blind-sighted like that from a partner and a friend.  I think you look amazing and his excuse makes no sense at all.  In the end, all things have a tendency to work out.  I was left by the man I thought I couldn't live without six months before I met my husband.  It was a great blessing, I just couldn't see it at the time.  I wish you the same experience and peace as you are getting your life back together.