How do I

newdawnh
on 6/15/15 3:53 pm
VSG on 06/16/15

I told a friend today about my scheduled surgery tomorrow and now she wants to come visit this weekend she lives 2 or 3 hours away how do I tell her not to come I just dont think im gonna be up to it My husband was mad I told her to begin with and now I am regretting it I love her but just think its not the time

Kiwideb
on 6/15/15 4:06 pm
VSG on 01/19/15

I don't think there's anything more you can say than sorry, I won't be up for it.

GeekMonster, Insolent Hag
on 6/15/15 4:50 pm - CA
VSG on 12/19/13

Tell her that you would definitely like to see her after you're home from surgery, and that you appreciate her understanding.

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GooseGirl
on 6/15/15 6:10 pm
VSG on 10/30/14 with

I would just tell her that you love her but that you won't be up to having company this weekend. Maybe suggest she come down in a few weeks instead if you are worried she will feel brushed off. 

 

    

    

iloveravens
on 6/15/15 8:03 pm
RNY on 08/13/14

I'm a big fan of the truth. "I'll let you know as soon as I'm up for visitors." That should do it. Good luck!

Lanie; Age: 43; Surgery Date (VSG): 8/12/14 w/complications resulting in RNY next day;

Height: 5' 6" SW: 249 Comfort Zone: 135-140 CW: 138 (10/13/17)

M1: -25 lbs M2: -12 M3: -13 M4: -7 M5: -11 M6: -10 M7: -7 M8: -7 M9: -3 M10: -8 M11: -4 M12: -4

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Sparklekitty, Science-Loving Derby Hag
on 6/15/15 9:07 pm
RNY on 08/05/19

You can always blame the doctor! "The surgeon said no visitors for at least a week so I can get enough rest."

Sparklekitty / Julie / Nerdy Little Secret (#42)
Roller derby - cycling - triathlon
VSG 2013, RNY conversion 2019 due to GERD. Trendweight here!

Tracy D.
on 6/16/15 7:09 am - Papillion, NE
VSG on 05/24/13

Blame it on the doctor - tell her that he has said he wants you to resting, no exertion and no visitors for at least 7-10 days.  Minimize risk of infection....blah, blah, blah :-) 

 Tracy  5'3"     HW: 235  SW: 218  CW: 132    M1: -22  M2: -13  M3: -12  M4: -9  M5: -8   M6: -10   M7: -4

 Goal reached in 7 months and 1 week

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