Wishing for Non-WLS Support and WLS Partner Support!

Oct 10, 2010

*WARNING* This is just a rant!

I am feeling so frustrated lately. My wonderful husband is finding OH to be a source of support for himself and that is terrific! He is trying for that WLS and I think he needs the support that he finds here.

I'm finding it difficult though to find my own support. I originally discovered OH. It's called "ObesityHelp.com", so I thought great! But, really, I think it should be called WLSHelp.com.

If I had insurance, had a way to pay for WLS, I might jump on this journey and be seeking the support that I'm finding offered here. But, I'm not ever going to be able to afford surgery for myself, so I have a choice... stay morbidly obese or do something about it myself.

I wish I could find support though. Simple weight loss by diet support isn't enough because my situation isn't just me trying to lose weight with diet. I have a spouse that is going to have WLS.

We seem to be a somewhat rare couple also. His weight loss is not all about him. My weight loss is not all about me. Come this Nov. we will be very happily married for 11 years. I think this is what our marriage is about, why we are still a lot like newly weds. This is a marriage. We are a team. We are we, we are not me/him. The things that I do in my life effects not only him, it effects our children too. Things he does in his life effects me and our children.

As a couple we are pretty attached at the hips. Yet, yes, we are individuals also. We are just acutely aware of how our choices effects the people around us.

This being said, it would be ideal to find couple support, especially where one of the spouses is needing weight loss but not having surgery.

In town support groups is out of the question as once again, no insurance equals no ability to pay.

I do have my husband to support me and I support him. This will see us through anything, I'm sure. It would be nice to share with other supporters though our fears, our tribulations, our frustrations and our triumps.

We have a story-book relationship. That being said, we are still everyday people. We have the same fears that I think the average couple in our situation fear. We talk about those fears, and for awhile the fears are calmed, but they are lingering there in the back of our minds.

Ugh!! It would just be nice to find the support I need. *sighs*

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